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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 689219" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Cedar, thank you. I always appreciate your feedback. My true feelings are that I can't think of him as my son anymore and the love is far away, after no contact ten plus years, not strong and upfront in my heart like the others. I do think I can leave him a few keepsakes, nothing worth a lot. Nothing anyone else would want.</p><p></p><p>ksm, I already gave him about ten picture albums. I took a lot of pictures lol. I can gift him a few family pictures. He will likely burn them. But that's better than nothing. I am also not happy that he refuses to talk to his 92 year old grandfather who was always kind to him. Allegedly it was ME who did these horrible things. My father is never mentioned. He did not need to cut him off too. My father loved him a lot. He hurt way more than just me. If I had been the only one, maybe I could swallow it better.</p><p></p><p>He is not getting a dime.</p><p></p><p>Yes, I am positive he never tried to contact me in the hospital. Or afterwards as I recovered. He has my number. It has not changed.</p><p></p><p>My decision to leave him no money is firm. He is almost 40. The time for excuses is over. I have never seen his kids. I am nobody to him by his word and deed. It was not my decision. I can't offer him what I do the kids who have been there through thick and thin. They care. He does not. My integrity tells me to treat him as he wishes, to not be in the family. He asked, in the church mediation center, to be absolved of all family responsibility. His words.</p><p></p><p>Right now all I am pondering really is the letter...or no lawyer letter. Since my car accident, I think about my passing and after. I do not want him to be able to rummage through my belongings or be at the reading of the will and disturb the other people he has hurt. He still has time to do right. But after ten years he won't. Part of him still talking to ex is the middle finger to the rest of us. Trust me...that us why. As long as he is married, and he thinks divorce is a sin, nothing will change. He very much pleases his wife. Nothing wrong with that, but then I don't feel I should include him in the Will and I also don't think he'll care. But I want it to be clear.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 689219, member: 1550"] Cedar, thank you. I always appreciate your feedback. My true feelings are that I can't think of him as my son anymore and the love is far away, after no contact ten plus years, not strong and upfront in my heart like the others. I do think I can leave him a few keepsakes, nothing worth a lot. Nothing anyone else would want. ksm, I already gave him about ten picture albums. I took a lot of pictures lol. I can gift him a few family pictures. He will likely burn them. But that's better than nothing. I am also not happy that he refuses to talk to his 92 year old grandfather who was always kind to him. Allegedly it was ME who did these horrible things. My father is never mentioned. He did not need to cut him off too. My father loved him a lot. He hurt way more than just me. If I had been the only one, maybe I could swallow it better. He is not getting a dime. Yes, I am positive he never tried to contact me in the hospital. Or afterwards as I recovered. He has my number. It has not changed. My decision to leave him no money is firm. He is almost 40. The time for excuses is over. I have never seen his kids. I am nobody to him by his word and deed. It was not my decision. I can't offer him what I do the kids who have been there through thick and thin. They care. He does not. My integrity tells me to treat him as he wishes, to not be in the family. He asked, in the church mediation center, to be absolved of all family responsibility. His words. Right now all I am pondering really is the letter...or no lawyer letter. Since my car accident, I think about my passing and after. I do not want him to be able to rummage through my belongings or be at the reading of the will and disturb the other people he has hurt. He still has time to do right. But after ten years he won't. Part of him still talking to ex is the middle finger to the rest of us. Trust me...that us why. As long as he is married, and he thinks divorce is a sin, nothing will change. He very much pleases his wife. Nothing wrong with that, but then I don't feel I should include him in the Will and I also don't think he'll care. But I want it to be clear. [/QUOTE]
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