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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 689220" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>This is a very personal decision. Each case is very different.</p><p>My husband and I prepared our wills a few years ago. We struggled over what to do with our son. He is our only child. After much thought and prayer we chose to leave our estate to our grand children, the children my son abandoned. Our son has made the choice to not provide for his children or be in their lives.</p><p>We put everything in a trust for them but they cannot access it until they are 35.</p><p>Our son is a homeless drifter going from state to state. At this point in his life leaving him our estate would not benefit him as he would burn through it literally by smoking pot and any other drugs he is using.</p><p>IF, he manages to get his life together we will consider making a provision for him. Wills can always be changed.</p><p></p><p>We do not feel it's necessary to tell our son our wishes.</p><p>My personal belief is to not "count" on an inheritance from anyone.</p><p></p><p>There is never a guarantee that splitting things equally between children will go smoothly.</p><p></p><p>When my father passed (many years after my mom), his will split everything between me and my sisters. One sister felt that she should be given his house. Her reasoning was that I and my other sisters had homes and she did not. This caused a rift between us. We did not give her the house, that was not our fathers wish. We sold the house and equally divided the proceeds.</p><p></p><p>The reason we chose to put everything in a trust is this helps to avoid things having to go through probate.</p><p></p><p>To keep the will from being protested our is worded like this:</p><p>Son's Name has intentionally be left out of this will for reasons known to My and husbands name. Per our lawyer, this is all the notification that needs to be made.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 689220, member: 18516"] This is a very personal decision. Each case is very different. My husband and I prepared our wills a few years ago. We struggled over what to do with our son. He is our only child. After much thought and prayer we chose to leave our estate to our grand children, the children my son abandoned. Our son has made the choice to not provide for his children or be in their lives. We put everything in a trust for them but they cannot access it until they are 35. Our son is a homeless drifter going from state to state. At this point in his life leaving him our estate would not benefit him as he would burn through it literally by smoking pot and any other drugs he is using. IF, he manages to get his life together we will consider making a provision for him. Wills can always be changed. We do not feel it's necessary to tell our son our wishes. My personal belief is to not "count" on an inheritance from anyone. There is never a guarantee that splitting things equally between children will go smoothly. When my father passed (many years after my mom), his will split everything between me and my sisters. One sister felt that she should be given his house. Her reasoning was that I and my other sisters had homes and she did not. This caused a rift between us. We did not give her the house, that was not our fathers wish. We sold the house and equally divided the proceeds. The reason we chose to put everything in a trust is this helps to avoid things having to go through probate. To keep the will from being protested our is worded like this: Son's Name has intentionally be left out of this will for reasons known to My and husbands name. Per our lawyer, this is all the notification that needs to be made. [/QUOTE]
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