in real life I tend to be quite a private person. I'm chatty but not too open. In my small community and also in sport community it was always known difficult child is a difficult child, but mostly people kept silent about it. Some time now my difficult child's troubles have been more public and I simply hate it. My difficult child's transactions have never been publish with his name attached in mainstream media. But also they do imply. For example if difficult child does well, you can bet there are few headlines, how he stole the points etc. And if you for example type my difficult child's name to Google and press space, Google's first suggestion for next word is 'thief' and second one is 'stole.' And the first ten search results gives at least one discussion about his thieving ways. Of course we are also unlucky to have an uncommon surname. There really isn't that many people with same name as he. And then of course there is gossiping. So people know about his worst troubles at least. Last easy child's game I attended I spent mostly trying to console the mom of his team mate who has also a difficult child child. Okay, I do understand her need to seek support, but having a difficult child is not making me an expert or helping me to give any useful advises. She isn't the only one who has been looking for support from me and I'm simply out of my depth in this. Last difficult child's game I attended (away game near there we live), I was unfortunate to sit near two guys, who simply couldn't let it go. Okay, I do understand people let off steam in sport stands and try to rile the visiting team's players and I'm sure they didn't know difficult child's parents were near them. But the other guy was screaming obscenities to difficult child whole time and other one was telling bad jokes about difficult child and even looking around him expecting people to laugh. The jokes were not funny in the first place (difficult child's team not getting home, because difficult child steals tires from the bus if they are not watching etc.) and they are also seriously old by now. I do know difficult child doesn't much hear the shouts from stands and certainly is not listening, but they do take out any enjoyment I would have to see my kid play. Most of difficult child's games I watch from TV and we go to see few of his games in his home town, but I do know difficult child likes it that we go to his away games that are near us. And of course they give a chance to chat up with him face to face for small time. So I do go to these games, but I'm not enjoying being in the crowed and having to hear the comments. And then there are the whackos. They mostly hunt difficult child himself but we get our part, then they are not able to find a way to contact difficult child. They are mostly people, who want to convert difficult child. To help him find Jesus, so all his troubles would go away. I do know these same people are after any public or semi-public person who has troubles, but they seriously grate me. And how an earth they think that calling me helps difficult child to 'be saved'? difficult child's season started and two of the five biggest season previews implied to difficult child's troubles (calling him problem boy etc.) so it is fresh in peoples mind. And that seems to bring whackos out. I have gotten two calls and one letter to send to difficult child, difficult child himself has gotten several calls and five letters in last month. It feels almost predatory how they are coming after people who are in trouble. And I can't help but feel the resentment for the guy, who did let the dogs out. When my difficult child was kicked from his former team, the team did a huge favour to him and published his transfer as any normal transfer and gave his old team mates a gag order. Some of his old coach and team management even got some flack from their fans for 'loosing difficult child.' They felt that difficult child would not have a chance if public would know and it was kept under wraps. and that bought us several months for difficult child to get his act together and I will be eternally grateful for that. Of course everyone inside the sport knew, but it really helped that fans and media didn't. When difficult child started to do very well, a parent of former team mate did tell the press though. They could not publish it with difficult child's name because of the privacy laws (and I'm happy for that), but the name quickly got all over internet. So now everyone knows. The parent of ex-teammate had even audacity to give a comment how he hopes difficult child is doing better now. I do know I should blame only difficult child, he did the deed after all, but I simply can't help but resent that other parent who did let it spill, because his jealousy (he is one of those sport parents and I firmly believe he did spill the beans becuase difficult child is doing so much better than his son.) And while mainstream media doesn't straightforwardly put what difficult child did and his name together, they really do their best in implying. As I said, difficult child always seem to stole this or that in their stories. He is referred as a problem child or a rascal etc. So they certainly are not letting anyone to forget and I resent that too. He is just a kid and he is doing his best to turn things around. Can't people give him some slack? Sorry for vent, but I'm so sick of loosing privacy and some people being jerks!