I threw out my 18 year old son. Things were completely out of control. He refused to work (why should he?) he lived with us and stole, freaked out, and wrecked the house-robbed us.Threatening, hurting his brothers and on and on... Thats a short version. We had to save ourselves and I had other kids who I had to protect. It is heartbreaking. You need to save yourself. Sure, she'll text she loves you, but these kids say anything, they know how to pull at your heartstrings. Actions speak louder than words. Be strong, you can get through this. Have a set of "answers" ready for her when she calls-like,"You're a smart girl, I'm sure you'll figure it out". This is the only way some kids realize they need to help themselves. The more we give them, or do for them-the less they do for themselves. Some kids will learn this hard way. It's not easy for them or for us. I'm sorry for the havoc your daughter has caused, I know what it feels like to walk on eggshells and feel so bad that you have to throw out your own child.My son ,now almost 2 years later, has a job, pays rent, and is on his own. He can never live here because it will be the same thing all over again(he asks to), but we took him and his friend out to dinner and a movie Wednesday night- and we do have a relationship now. We had a restraining order even at one point.Things will get better for you and your family. -Alyssa