I have three children Son 13, Son will be 12 in September, and Daughter 9. All they do is fight non-stop about everything. They refuse to play together, will not help each other. They do not stick up for each other at all. They argue about everything and when I say everything it is no exageration. The boys do not stick up for their sister at all, in fact they treat her like garbage. When it comes to helping around the house they are terrible, they have to be told repeatedly to do any chores they have, they will just drop trash on floor rather than walk a few extra feet to the trash can, their rooms are horrible everyday, even half hour after they clean it spotless(after being told over and over again). They leave their plates and cups laying around. The boys both get into food and drinks that they arent supposed to. I had to put a lock on the pantry, fridge and freezer just to keep them out of them. They wont just take one thing they will take a bunch. Its ridiculous and no form of punishment seems to work. Grounding, taking stuff away, time-out, plain old spanking. None of it works with them they will turn right around and do it again. I am at wits end, I love my kids but they are sending me to an early grave.