difficult child 2's psychiatrist saw him for an hour yesterday. Today she and I met for 30 min and talked.
I brought up the juvie psychiatrist's "he's just a spoiled brat" diagnosis and asked her about that.
The psychiatrist said that she realizes that's how difficult child 2 comes across at first. But she said if you spend time with him you come to realize that he has almost no ability to take another persons' perspective and that's what is really going on.
I told her I felt so guilty - like somehow this was my fault, that we had been bad parents who had not taught him limits, etc.
She said no, it's because that's the way his brain has developed.
If you have a difficult child who has this issue, has your difficult child learned the skills needed to cope successfully? What worked best?
Thanks,
P
I brought up the juvie psychiatrist's "he's just a spoiled brat" diagnosis and asked her about that.
The psychiatrist said that she realizes that's how difficult child 2 comes across at first. But she said if you spend time with him you come to realize that he has almost no ability to take another persons' perspective and that's what is really going on.
I told her I felt so guilty - like somehow this was my fault, that we had been bad parents who had not taught him limits, etc.
She said no, it's because that's the way his brain has developed.
If you have a difficult child who has this issue, has your difficult child learned the skills needed to cope successfully? What worked best?
Thanks,
P