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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 664073" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Blackgnat,</p><p></p><p>I hope you are having a better day.</p><p></p><p>It is so hard to watch someone we love self destruct. I remember at times with my son it was like watching him walking on a train track and I could see the train coming right at him and I was powerless to pull him off that track.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, this is acceptance. It's gut wrenching when it hits but there is also a freedom that follows.</p><p></p><p>Even if we had all the money in the world and could get the top therapists and the finest facilities, unless our Difficult Child's truly want to change they never will.</p><p>My son has stopped drinking and drugging but he always goes back to it. For my son, he is completely unwilling to submit to any type of authority or higher power. He thinks he can do it all on his own. Until he finally grasps that it can't be done alone, that he needs help he will continue on his path of self destruction.</p><p></p><p>I have accepted that my son could not only die but that I may never know. My son is traveling across the western states and that is really all I know. He does not communicate with me very often.</p><p>In order for me to get on with my own life I have had to let it go. I know I've done all I can for him. Could I have done more? Sure, we all can do more but all that does is continue to enable their behavior.</p><p>We only have power over our own choices not theirs.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you...................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 664073, member: 18516"] Blackgnat, I hope you are having a better day. It is so hard to watch someone we love self destruct. I remember at times with my son it was like watching him walking on a train track and I could see the train coming right at him and I was powerless to pull him off that track. Yes, this is acceptance. It's gut wrenching when it hits but there is also a freedom that follows. Even if we had all the money in the world and could get the top therapists and the finest facilities, unless our Difficult Child's truly want to change they never will. My son has stopped drinking and drugging but he always goes back to it. For my son, he is completely unwilling to submit to any type of authority or higher power. He thinks he can do it all on his own. Until he finally grasps that it can't be done alone, that he needs help he will continue on his path of self destruction. I have accepted that my son could not only die but that I may never know. My son is traveling across the western states and that is really all I know. He does not communicate with me very often. In order for me to get on with my own life I have had to let it go. I know I've done all I can for him. Could I have done more? Sure, we all can do more but all that does is continue to enable their behavior. We only have power over our own choices not theirs. ((HUGS)) to you................... [/QUOTE]
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