Hey, Im back. Im the stepmother whose stepson falsely accused my husband of abuse (multiple times), until he came up with a real doozy, the police arrested my husband and my stepson got taken away by CPS. He did this all as part of a self-confessed plan with his mother since he wanted to go live with her. Currently, a year later, weve taken care of the charges against my husband, and difficult child has been through three different foster homes. CPS has been very slow in addressing all of difficult childs issues, but I think we are all finally on the same page. At this point, difficult child is not being returned home because he doesnt want to be returned home, and they are afraid of how much more he would act up were he to be placed back in our house. And honestly, the thought makes me more than just a little anxious. He has a history of destructive and aggressive behavior in our house. This last foster home has been very lax about rules, and difficult child has just taken that and run with it. He just turned thirteen. Hes been skipping classes, Fs across the board, committed sexual battery on a girl at school, attacked same girl and attacked another boy, drinking, and smoking marijuana. Its a mess. The foster parents wanted to keep him and see if they could help, but the foster family agency finally put their foot down they dont want to accept liability anymore. Hes been showing up under the influence to his visits with his mother. Dont get me started on his mother. On-off addict (latest relapse in August), narcissistic personality disorder, and brainwashing difficult child to believe that the only way he will be happy is if he lives with her. Currently she is facing felony child endangerment charges in regards to her youngest. She had custody of difficult child when he was very young, lost it, regained it, and subsequently abandoned him. My husbands joint counseling with him has been next to useless. difficult child says he loves us, enjoys visiting with us, but doesnt like our rules. Repetitive I should be with my mom I just want to go live with my mom, etc. without being able to articulate why. Hes had an extensive psychiatric evaluation (ADHD, disruptive behavior disorder, avoidant attachment style, and a couple things I cant remember) and just went today to the psychiatrist to see about possibly adjusting his medications, mostly for his ADHD. They are moving him to a group home in, at most, six more days. Has this helped anyone else with their difficult child? Our difficult child has always been a difficult child, but a couple years back we were doing pretty well. He was in honors English, testing high on aptitude, on a regular behavioral plan, sweet and helpful. This is the kid that, on my birthday, without any prompting, got up early and made me breakfast. Lately hes been coming over on weekends completely flat under the influence of something or hung over. It breaks my heart to see where were at right now. I am thankful that he will be in a place with more supervision and that I wont have to be worried about his safety as much (foster dad would let him go off to his friends place, riding his bicycle with-o helmet and while intoxicated, returning after dark. It was driving me crazy! Ive been tense and worried every single day.). The social worker has worked in group homes, and is looking to find one that is a good fit for him. Anyone else had experience with this sort of thing?