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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 666794" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is one of the most insightful posts I've read about our kids and others who crave wild and crazy relationships.</p><p></p><p>This doesn't have anything to do with how you can help your child, but I will share a brief story with somebody I once knew. He had married a girl from a very dangerous, chaotic place where people partied outside at night and slept during the day and the police were often called. He brought her to his beautiful home in a quiet, peaceful suburb and she left him because she was too bored there and he wouldn't move to her area.</p><p></p><p>She chose chaos, danger, and excitement over peace. It bored her. It was an interesting story and fits right in with what you just said about relationships and some people so used to chaos that peace seems boring.</p><p></p><p>I kind of think it is a bit of genetics and also environment. There are some people, brought up in chaos, who crave that dysfunctional relationship and play it over and over again and some who want the opposite so who knows? But people who grow up in chaos or who are predisposed to risky behavior can change as time goes by. Your daughter can change. The thing is, you can't change her. None of us can change another person. But we can know there is always hope.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart and the tough decisions you made.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 666794, member: 1550"] This is one of the most insightful posts I've read about our kids and others who crave wild and crazy relationships. This doesn't have anything to do with how you can help your child, but I will share a brief story with somebody I once knew. He had married a girl from a very dangerous, chaotic place where people partied outside at night and slept during the day and the police were often called. He brought her to his beautiful home in a quiet, peaceful suburb and she left him because she was too bored there and he wouldn't move to her area. She chose chaos, danger, and excitement over peace. It bored her. It was an interesting story and fits right in with what you just said about relationships and some people so used to chaos that peace seems boring. I kind of think it is a bit of genetics and also environment. There are some people, brought up in chaos, who crave that dysfunctional relationship and play it over and over again and some who want the opposite so who knows? But people who grow up in chaos or who are predisposed to risky behavior can change as time goes by. Your daughter can change. The thing is, you can't change her. None of us can change another person. But we can know there is always hope. Hugs for your hurting heart and the tough decisions you made. [/QUOTE]
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