Newbie to this site, my sister found it thinking it might help me help my son. We have a 20 yr old son no longer living in the home. We are paying for him to live in a room over a bar, can no longer have him in the home. Have had 5 very difficult years: defiance, damage to property, disrespect, theft, pot and alcohol, poor grades, taking the car, self-injury, homemade tattoos. Our son has had 4 inpatient psychiatric stays, has been diagnosed with ADHD, severe depression and bipolar depending on which psychiatrist you ask. Has been on lots of different medications. He spent 9 months in a treatment center in UT until he was 18. A waste of 75 grand. He came out the same way he went in, only learned some new tricks. He's now racking up an arrest record; pot and disorderly conduct are the latest. I've tried it all and here is my son 20 years old working on a record and no job. I can't seem to give up as I strongly feel he does have a mental disability (runs on the family). He has trouble controlling his anger, then breaks things, then cries, then feels worthless and doesn't care. Looking for any advice as I'm running out of ideas. I am back to the one day at a time. Trying not to be too depressed as I have another teenager in the house. Thanks for listening.