Need some advice: I have twins boys they are 12 and both have adhd and bi polar, My one twin peanut is really having a hard time in school this year, he is being bullied, lying about and not doing his homework, and he doesn't seem to think it is a big deal. Today I got a call from one of his teachers and he now has a detention for not doing his homework. I have decided to pull him out of karate for the homework thing because he has been warned about it several times in the passed few months and I am done paying for something he thinks he is owed and thinks he can get away with not doing his homework. As of right now I am still allowing him to be in wrestling thru the school, because if he continues to not do his homework he will not be allowed on the team per the schools rules for sports. Now for my other twin moose, he has severe anger issues and an attitude beyond anything I have ever seen. He will have fits of rage to where he will attack his brother and choke him, he also will call me every name in the book, and I get told to "shut up u f***ing b***h", I am fed up with the disrespect and anger. He has also been pulled out of karate as of today, has been warned several times and still continues to act the same way. Now that I pulled him out all I have heard is how mean I am and that I am a b***h, and a bad mom. I am letting him stay in wrestling also, cuz he needs an outlet and I am trying to keep him out of trouble. I can't find a psychologist that will see them due to us being on public aid and the county health dept has a waiting list of 3 yrs to get in to see one. I do have an appointment with their pediatrician to see if a medication change will work, but I have discussed it with her before and she doesn't want to change their medication dosage. Am I doing the right thing by not taking away everything from them, or should I take it all away (like my mom said)? Also any other advice on how to get control of these 2 boys will help I am about at the end of my rope with this behavior.