loves_rainy_days
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Hi! I posted once a couple of months ago and haven't been back to the forum in awhile, things have just kinda been going downhill and continue to do so. I had posted about my adopted son, Dill, and his behavior and anger issues. They are getting worse and we have tried everything under the sun from stickers, rewards like candy, toys etc.. and have gotten absolutely no where. We have made several appoints to the Psychologist and Psychiatrist and absolutely believe that they are not understanding what is going on or happening and we even take him to the appts not medicated. The school is understanding because they are seeing it at school. He gets annoyed at the kids at school because they will not play with him so he kicks them or kicks the pole on the playground, he doesn't want to do his school work so he throws his books and breaks his pencils. At home, he tells us that he is the boss and that we are not, he choked and kicked Creature because he came around the corner and startled him, he threw a book in the air and it hit him in the eye so he told Gentle Giant that he was going to go to school and tell everyone that Gentle Giant punched him in the eye for no reason, it was close to dinner time and he asked Gentle Giant for a snack and was told No, so as soon as Gentle Giant got into the shower, Dill went and ate 14 pop tarts and hid the wrappers in his room. Only reason we found out was he didn't want to eat dinner and it was his favorite, at first he lied about having a snack and then finally admitted to it. We have gone out and have had to child proof the house because of his behaviors. We have had to put child safety locks on windows, the fridge and cabinets. We have the child safety thingy on our bedroom door. He doesn't want to do his chores, take a bath, change clothes etc.. feels that he doesn't have to and he tells us that. He kicks, throws and hits the cats constantly and says they deserved it because they annoyed him. There are many other things and there are some things that I don't even know how to explain or even if this is the right place to because they are disturbing. He is the happiest thing in the world as long as he gets his way but the minute we tell him no or to do something, that is it, he screams, does this fake cry, yells, tells us to shut up, and starts throwing things, hitting the wall or taking things out on Creature or the cats. We are absolutely at a loss on what to do anymore because nothing works. We are trying to get him into the Psychiatric and Behavioral Clinic at Children's Hospital for some testing etc.... but can't get an appointment until March of next year. We need help now before he seriously hurts someone or the cats. How can we get help now or where can we go or what can we do? We are desperate and fear that one day we will either be visiting Dill behind bars or a psychiatric ward because of his anger or we fear that he will never be able to live on his own because he can't manage to do the simple basic things like taking a bath, brushing his teeth or even peeing in the toilet (he likes to pee on the floor, wall or the cabinet). We are tired, have no clue what to do anymore, where to go etc.... Do we let him do whatever he wants, let him forgo personal hygiene or do we continue with time outs, taking the xbox away (which right now has been taken away til the end of the school year), grounding , taking the TV away etc.... (nothing seems to work by the way, he don't care)?
"J" crazy mom of 2, adopted mom of 1. ~Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Bi-polar Disorder, PTSD~ (Effexor)
"Gentle Giant" Supportive & Loving Boyfriend (Fiancee) ~ADHD, PTSD, Migraine Suffer~ (Zoloft, Vyvance, Seroquel)
easy child "TAG" 19yrs old, my mini me. ~Learning Disability (LD)~
easy child "Creature" 11yrs old almost 12, my lil story teller. ~Epilepsy, 10yr Brain Tumor Survivor, Learning Disability (LD)~ (Carbatrol)
difficult child "Dill" 9yrs old, "Gentle Giant's" son and my son in every way except I didn't give birth to him. My lil Hugger. ~ADHD, possible Oppositional
Defiant Disorder, possible Autism/Aspergers, bio-mom avid meth user entire pregnancy, abuse and severe neglect after birth. (Concerta)
"J" crazy mom of 2, adopted mom of 1. ~Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Bi-polar Disorder, PTSD~ (Effexor)
"Gentle Giant" Supportive & Loving Boyfriend (Fiancee) ~ADHD, PTSD, Migraine Suffer~ (Zoloft, Vyvance, Seroquel)
easy child "TAG" 19yrs old, my mini me. ~Learning Disability (LD)~
easy child "Creature" 11yrs old almost 12, my lil story teller. ~Epilepsy, 10yr Brain Tumor Survivor, Learning Disability (LD)~ (Carbatrol)
difficult child "Dill" 9yrs old, "Gentle Giant's" son and my son in every way except I didn't give birth to him. My lil Hugger. ~ADHD, possible Oppositional
Defiant Disorder, possible Autism/Aspergers, bio-mom avid meth user entire pregnancy, abuse and severe neglect after birth. (Concerta)