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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 690494" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>RN- kudos to hubby for telling you that advice, to not let son, rain on you with negativity. I think, in a way, son is slowly finding excuses to get out of sober living. My son would find a place, drama would die down, then it would slowly ramp up with his calls about the people he was living with until eventually he moved again. I finally said one day, you know Son, there is always drama no matter where you live or who you live with, have you thought about that? He causes lot of the drama. He gets anxious and edgy, needs to move on, like a wandering Nomad and I understand why- it's all he has known since he chose to live on the streets. </p><p></p><p>Change is scary. He changed sober places, he is on edge, not sure if he made the right decision. He needs to stick it out- because so many times with our Kids, they bail when things get hard or uncomfortable for them, take the easy way out.</p><p></p><p>He really should do the 12 program meetings. I have friends who still attend, who were alcoholics and it's been 20 years for them being sober. YOU need that support, a place to commune and share and reaffirm why you need to live sober. </p><p></p><p>We never stop worrying, but we have to try, every day. I use to take things so seriously with son, get all ramped up, but now, I just sigh and breathe and say to myself, this too shall pass. I stop him dead in his tracks when he throws too much drama my way. I tell him, look I love you- but I have to go. I have to do this for me. My brain and emotions just can't take the overload anymore. That is my boundary with him, and it works for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 690494, member: 19951"] RN- kudos to hubby for telling you that advice, to not let son, rain on you with negativity. I think, in a way, son is slowly finding excuses to get out of sober living. My son would find a place, drama would die down, then it would slowly ramp up with his calls about the people he was living with until eventually he moved again. I finally said one day, you know Son, there is always drama no matter where you live or who you live with, have you thought about that? He causes lot of the drama. He gets anxious and edgy, needs to move on, like a wandering Nomad and I understand why- it's all he has known since he chose to live on the streets. Change is scary. He changed sober places, he is on edge, not sure if he made the right decision. He needs to stick it out- because so many times with our Kids, they bail when things get hard or uncomfortable for them, take the easy way out. He really should do the 12 program meetings. I have friends who still attend, who were alcoholics and it's been 20 years for them being sober. YOU need that support, a place to commune and share and reaffirm why you need to live sober. We never stop worrying, but we have to try, every day. I use to take things so seriously with son, get all ramped up, but now, I just sigh and breathe and say to myself, this too shall pass. I stop him dead in his tracks when he throws too much drama my way. I tell him, look I love you- but I have to go. I have to do this for me. My brain and emotions just can't take the overload anymore. That is my boundary with him, and it works for me. [/QUOTE]
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