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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 690497" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>It is hard to rein in the helping when they are with you- near where you live and see often. I think I would struggle more if he was near me. No doubt. I give you Kudos for trying to be there but not there for him while he finds his way. For me son, is 5 states away so I talk to him on the phone several times a week. We have good conversations for the most part - other times, it's just he needs to talk through stuff in his head, I listen, offer suggestions, to take or not take, and I always say, but in the end, I know you will do what you want to do, and that is fine, you are 36 and need to make your own way.</p><p></p><p>Yes, we have hope, but I learned to not have high expectations, I have low expectations, keep it simple, that way I don't crash and burn so many times anymore. Keep it simple and low by "today, he has a place to live, he is off the street". "Today, he sounds good, he is laughing and not ranting, psychotic". "Today, he calls to just say, what's up Momma, how are you and not asking for money or telling me someone is after him". I find joy in those "todays".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 690497, member: 19951"] It is hard to rein in the helping when they are with you- near where you live and see often. I think I would struggle more if he was near me. No doubt. I give you Kudos for trying to be there but not there for him while he finds his way. For me son, is 5 states away so I talk to him on the phone several times a week. We have good conversations for the most part - other times, it's just he needs to talk through stuff in his head, I listen, offer suggestions, to take or not take, and I always say, but in the end, I know you will do what you want to do, and that is fine, you are 36 and need to make your own way. Yes, we have hope, but I learned to not have high expectations, I have low expectations, keep it simple, that way I don't crash and burn so many times anymore. Keep it simple and low by "today, he has a place to live, he is off the street". "Today, he sounds good, he is laughing and not ranting, psychotic". "Today, he calls to just say, what's up Momma, how are you and not asking for money or telling me someone is after him". I find joy in those "todays". [/QUOTE]
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