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<blockquote data-quote="rebelson" data-source="post: 690526" data-attributes="member: 19966"><p>Hi RN,</p><p></p><p>In a way, it seems like your son is using emotional manipulation on you instead of Dad, to keep you enmeshed. He knows that you are the 'weaker' one where his welfare is concerned. So, he unloads on you. Or, I am wrong and perhaps he is truly depressed? Maybe his medication needs a tweak?</p><p></p><p>Has he ever had his temperament tested? Do you think part of his temperament 'makeup' is that of '<em>melancholy</em>' (one of the 5 temperament types)? Here is just one link on it:</p><p><a href="http://interpersonal-compatibility.blogspot.com/2014/03/melancholic-temperament-strengths-and.html" target="_blank">http://interpersonal-compatibility.blogspot.com/2014/03/melancholic-temperament-strengths-and.html</a></p><p></p><p>My son also knows I am the 'weak' one. Thankfully, he rarely calls me with 'depressive' complaints. But yay!!! Instead, I get the psychotic, drunken, ranting, hallucinating and/or 2am stranded 50 miles away down in South Beach and need a $120 taxi ride home phone calls, in the middle of the night! Yay me! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/thumbsup.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":thumbsup:" title="thumbsup :thumbsup:" data-shortname=":thumbsup:" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite9" alt=":eek:" title="Eek! :eek:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":eek:" /> <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/thumbsdown.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":thumbsdown:" title="thumbsdown :thumbsdown:" data-shortname=":thumbsdown:" /></p><p></p><p>I think it was a brave 'move' that he made. I would say hold firm in that he must remain in sober living, if he wishes your help continue.</p><p></p><p>As for the consistent complaints from him re: not liking living with others. What would happen if he went out on his own, ditched sober living? Does he have the funds to have his OWN apartment? Likely, no. So, he'd have to have 1 or more roommates. Minus the meetings, that is back to square 1. Where he is now, with annoying roommates.</p><p></p><p>I hope you're managing a peaceful weekend. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rebelson, post: 690526, member: 19966"] Hi RN, In a way, it seems like your son is using emotional manipulation on you instead of Dad, to keep you enmeshed. He knows that you are the 'weaker' one where his welfare is concerned. So, he unloads on you. Or, I am wrong and perhaps he is truly depressed? Maybe his medication needs a tweak? Has he ever had his temperament tested? Do you think part of his temperament 'makeup' is that of '[I]melancholy[/I]' (one of the 5 temperament types)? Here is just one link on it: [URL]http://interpersonal-compatibility.blogspot.com/2014/03/melancholic-temperament-strengths-and.html[/URL] My son also knows I am the 'weak' one. Thankfully, he rarely calls me with 'depressive' complaints. But yay!!! Instead, I get the psychotic, drunken, ranting, hallucinating and/or 2am stranded 50 miles away down in South Beach and need a $120 taxi ride home phone calls, in the middle of the night! Yay me! :thumbsup: :eek: :thumbsdown: I think it was a brave 'move' that he made. I would say hold firm in that he must remain in sober living, if he wishes your help continue. As for the consistent complaints from him re: not liking living with others. What would happen if he went out on his own, ditched sober living? Does he have the funds to have his OWN apartment? Likely, no. So, he'd have to have 1 or more roommates. Minus the meetings, that is back to square 1. Where he is now, with annoying roommates. I hope you're managing a peaceful weekend. :tongue: [/QUOTE]
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