ask her to marry him! Diva's boyfriend asked to talk to husband and I. It was a family meeting including difficult child. boyfriend asked if he had our permission to ask Diva (not now but in the future) to marry him. If she says yes, it would be after her schooling (1 1/2 years). I like him - he has better values than the other kids Diva hangs with. This was my opportunity to tell him about my concerns. I asked if they had worked a few things out and I did tell him that I am concerned with some of their arguments - that they have to let each other do things for themselves and be flexible when plans change (he was very upset when she made a doctor appointment on a day that she was suppose to spend with him - I told him that her health comes first. Not to get overly possessive.) I told him that I don't want to see either of them hurt especially Diva to which difficult child chimed in and said, "I am more concerned about boyfriend getting hurt". We gave our permission. I have voiced my concerns and now I need to stay in the background and let them figure it out.