My son, who we adopted from Hong Kong at age almost 6, dumped us three years ago without explanation. And he isn't interested in reconnecting. For those who think I should sit down and talk to him, he won't, so there isn't any way to change this. The other day I was feeling nostalgic and wanted to look at his facebook. I saw his two biological sisters listed as "friends." I knew about them because I'd written to his birthmother when he was very little and, for some reason, terrified that his birthmother had died in a car accident. Trust me, back then there was no internet and it was odd that I actually did find her in Hong Kong. She could write back to me too because everyone knows English, even though most of here in OUR country aren't bilinguil. I figured he'd search one day as he never acted like he felt he fit in to our family, although he was very well behaved and sweet. Then he found his wife and his cult-like church. Although his birth family are atheists, apparently that's all right. Anyway, I remember the pictures of his half-sisters and one looked just like him. I also remember their names and they are both on his site. The one who looks like him so SO ADORABLE She has to be about 22 now (he is 31). For those with adopted kids, most adopted kids don't dump their adoptive families when they search--my son must have other reasons as well, although he won't share them. I'm glad he found them. Of all my kids, he needed this the most. He had the address from when I wrote to his birthmother (I had given him all the letters) and he has plenty of money so he could travel to Hong Kong. Heck, he can travel all the time if he wants. Ok, so it does hurt a little. But (sigh) at least it's an explanation. This year I sent him a Christmas card. He didn't send one to anybody. Nor has anyone seen him for a long time. He doesn't even call on the holidays. Just an update.