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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 665125" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>It is interesting how Ache, despite his social issues and despite many of his issues coming out as very obnoxious or negative behaviours and even verbal aggressions has somehow manage to gather quite a group of supportive people in to his life. For example this latest crisis, as said, he was lashing left and right, being really rude, crude and disrespectful. Throw in pinch of snide smartassness, gallon of self pity, ton of passive aggressiveness and hints of real, raw pain and you have his behaviour over couple days in this. What that got for him?</p><p></p><p>A team mate asking him to his place for a night, two other team mates inviting themselves to Ache's place for dinner next day and apparently a movie night with few team mates the day after that. And several encouraging social media messages from people who shouldn't have any reason to wish him well, but for some reason do. And apparently much more through more private channels. Or at least yesterday afternoon when Ache finally called me back, to ask if he can use other type of fish instead of the one I usually use in certain dish he was making for dinner for those team mates, he complained how everyone was calling and sending messages and asking if he is okay.</p><p></p><p>And some other people, people he doesn't even personally know, just fans of his former team, were chiding other people who were attacking him in social media.</p><p></p><p>I mean, i love the kid, but I <strong>am</strong> his mother. What is their excuse?</p><p></p><p>Maybe people just are kinder than I give them credit for. Even in the subculture where kindness often is not the first word that comes to mind when people are describing people in that subculture.</p><p></p><p>I haven't really talked with Ache today. I try not to smoother him and he will talk to me about it when he is ready and not a second before. But his social media has been more sport and music centric today, which is usually a good sign. Some touchiness to some comments of others, but much less raw than earlier. And appropriate answer to my whatsapp question about how that other fish worked out in that dish (isn't it interesting how we at times really need to talk about sides because there are not safe words to talk about an issue.)</p><p></p><p>I'm sure he will be able to patch up his relationship with his mentor, though I'm also sure his mentor makes him sweat on it. They are not talking and Ache's mentor did make it clear to Ache that he was angry enough that he is not sure if they will. That was Friday night. Mentor has since called me twice to ask if Ache is okay and safe and in the latest call he wondered if he should ask a favour from old acquaintance, or if you believe the rumours old rival and enemy, so that he would help Ache with something Ache and mentor were supposed to do and which can't wait till mentor thinks Ache has grovelled enough.</p><p></p><p>This mentor figure is also one of those you would not expect kindness or caring. He has reputation of being very arrogant, selfish and stuck up. And he does seem aloof, but in all our dealings with him that has not been true. And it is not much short of a decade when we mate him first time when he had retired his own sport career (he is quite a local legend) and hired by sport association to scout young talented kids. He asked someone to introduce him to parents of that one boy in the field and told us that our kid showed some promise and asked few questions about how Ache was feeling about his sport, if all in our family were tallish and if Ache was already starting to hit first signs of puberty etc. He has been part of Ache's life more or less constantly almost then on. Relationship Ache values very high.</p><p></p><p>But anyway, it seems Ache may be getting back to his feet again. Very wobbly feet, but at least it didn't end up to worst this time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 665125, member: 14557"] It is interesting how Ache, despite his social issues and despite many of his issues coming out as very obnoxious or negative behaviours and even verbal aggressions has somehow manage to gather quite a group of supportive people in to his life. For example this latest crisis, as said, he was lashing left and right, being really rude, crude and disrespectful. Throw in pinch of snide smartassness, gallon of self pity, ton of passive aggressiveness and hints of real, raw pain and you have his behaviour over couple days in this. What that got for him? A team mate asking him to his place for a night, two other team mates inviting themselves to Ache's place for dinner next day and apparently a movie night with few team mates the day after that. And several encouraging social media messages from people who shouldn't have any reason to wish him well, but for some reason do. And apparently much more through more private channels. Or at least yesterday afternoon when Ache finally called me back, to ask if he can use other type of fish instead of the one I usually use in certain dish he was making for dinner for those team mates, he complained how everyone was calling and sending messages and asking if he is okay. And some other people, people he doesn't even personally know, just fans of his former team, were chiding other people who were attacking him in social media. I mean, i love the kid, but I [B]am[/B] his mother. What is their excuse? Maybe people just are kinder than I give them credit for. Even in the subculture where kindness often is not the first word that comes to mind when people are describing people in that subculture. I haven't really talked with Ache today. I try not to smoother him and he will talk to me about it when he is ready and not a second before. But his social media has been more sport and music centric today, which is usually a good sign. Some touchiness to some comments of others, but much less raw than earlier. And appropriate answer to my whatsapp question about how that other fish worked out in that dish (isn't it interesting how we at times really need to talk about sides because there are not safe words to talk about an issue.) I'm sure he will be able to patch up his relationship with his mentor, though I'm also sure his mentor makes him sweat on it. They are not talking and Ache's mentor did make it clear to Ache that he was angry enough that he is not sure if they will. That was Friday night. Mentor has since called me twice to ask if Ache is okay and safe and in the latest call he wondered if he should ask a favour from old acquaintance, or if you believe the rumours old rival and enemy, so that he would help Ache with something Ache and mentor were supposed to do and which can't wait till mentor thinks Ache has grovelled enough. This mentor figure is also one of those you would not expect kindness or caring. He has reputation of being very arrogant, selfish and stuck up. And he does seem aloof, but in all our dealings with him that has not been true. And it is not much short of a decade when we mate him first time when he had retired his own sport career (he is quite a local legend) and hired by sport association to scout young talented kids. He asked someone to introduce him to parents of that one boy in the field and told us that our kid showed some promise and asked few questions about how Ache was feeling about his sport, if all in our family were tallish and if Ache was already starting to hit first signs of puberty etc. He has been part of Ache's life more or less constantly almost then on. Relationship Ache values very high. But anyway, it seems Ache may be getting back to his feet again. Very wobbly feet, but at least it didn't end up to worst this time. [/QUOTE]
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