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He is Ramping up Please give me Strenght.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 721963" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>How did he do at home? Thats how he will again do at home. He is a drug addict. They make promises all the time. Your son is very clearly NOT going to quit drugs right now. No motivation. Without that first step, HE is ruining his life. They always are very cunning about making us feel guilty about their unwillingness to quit using drugs. Thats their way of getting what they want...lying, gaslighting, guilt producing.</p><p>He is not going to be productive until he quits drugs. The Canadian system of harm reduction is in my opinion useless. As long as one takes drugs and hangs wirh druggies they are in harm's way and not going to succeed.</p><p>You cant give up or not give up on him. Only he can give up or not give up on himself and drug users do not care about the feelings of anyone while they are using. They care only about continuing the destructive lifestyle from the warmth and comfort of your home...and dont follow rules when they are there. They lie, cheat, steal. Steal. From their parents who love them. And then they lie about it when caught or blame us!</p><p></p><p>Even rehab cant help them until they want to be helped. This is a sad fact. We work so hard to get them there, but its still no guarantee, but it is a step in the right direction</p><p></p><p>You have done all you can. Dont read his texts that often. Maybe once a week. Or not at all. He is gaslighting you. You need a break from his nonsense in your head. And it IS nonsense. Does he ever text,"How are YOU doing, Mom?"</p><p>Be good to yourself. Son is playing mind games.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 721963, member: 1550"] How did he do at home? Thats how he will again do at home. He is a drug addict. They make promises all the time. Your son is very clearly NOT going to quit drugs right now. No motivation. Without that first step, HE is ruining his life. They always are very cunning about making us feel guilty about their unwillingness to quit using drugs. Thats their way of getting what they want...lying, gaslighting, guilt producing. He is not going to be productive until he quits drugs. The Canadian system of harm reduction is in my opinion useless. As long as one takes drugs and hangs wirh druggies they are in harm's way and not going to succeed. You cant give up or not give up on him. Only he can give up or not give up on himself and drug users do not care about the feelings of anyone while they are using. They care only about continuing the destructive lifestyle from the warmth and comfort of your home...and dont follow rules when they are there. They lie, cheat, steal. Steal. From their parents who love them. And then they lie about it when caught or blame us! Even rehab cant help them until they want to be helped. This is a sad fact. We work so hard to get them there, but its still no guarantee, but it is a step in the right direction You have done all you can. Dont read his texts that often. Maybe once a week. Or not at all. He is gaslighting you. You need a break from his nonsense in your head. And it IS nonsense. Does he ever text,"How are YOU doing, Mom?" Be good to yourself. Son is playing mind games. [/QUOTE]
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