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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 686882" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. Im sorry for your pain. My daughter once used meth.</p><p></p><p>You need to see your son straight...and his father too or it WILL kill you.</p><p></p><p>Your son is a legal adult and bet he lets you know it. He is not a ten year old boy. He is not a good kid. He is a young man (many his age are in college, working full time and, yes, serving our country. He is dangerous not just to himself but he should never have been given a car or been behind the wheel. Its not just a dumb kid 'mistake" to drive while intoxicated. It can lead to vehicular homicide. What is his father thinking? Does he want to help his son or see him in prison (forget jail) for killing an innocent driver who was sober. Nothing against your kid, but I hope they took his license.</p><p></p><p>Jail is probably not only the safest place for him, but he can get clean and maybe get scared straight. I would not bail him out or pary for an attorney or he will learn that mom will rescue him if he does bad things. I know you dont want to help him feel free to take dangerous chances. Forget him crying to you that he learned his lesson. Pure manipulation.</p><p></p><p>He has common mental health problems....anxiety, depression. I have both and more, but they are treatable and he is aware that self medication will just make them worse. He needs to be the one to treat his mental health issues because he is a legal adult. I had to do it at 18. He is capable of getting help too. It is not an excuse to dis your house rules and drive intoxicated. This isnt your fault. Its 90 percent his fault. Dad is guilty of buying him a car.</p><p></p><p>Once you see your son as a legal adult, even though immature, you will maybe stop making excuses for his very deliberate bad behavior. Immaturity goes hand in hand with drug use, even if the person is 50. He needs to grow up and take responsibility. He is young enough to decide on rehab and to not be a drug lifer. But they dont do it if we are there enabling them and excusing them.</p><p>Al anon is very helpful for parents of adult substance abusers. It even can help those who are not religious. I am spiritual but not religious and the commaraderie, understanding and friendship got me through the worst of it.</p><p>I welcome you and wish only the best. Be good to yourself. Dont let him ruin your life. You are seperate people. Detach, detach detach.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 686882, member: 1550"] Hi. Im sorry for your pain. My daughter once used meth. You need to see your son straight...and his father too or it WILL kill you. Your son is a legal adult and bet he lets you know it. He is not a ten year old boy. He is not a good kid. He is a young man (many his age are in college, working full time and, yes, serving our country. He is dangerous not just to himself but he should never have been given a car or been behind the wheel. Its not just a dumb kid 'mistake" to drive while intoxicated. It can lead to vehicular homicide. What is his father thinking? Does he want to help his son or see him in prison (forget jail) for killing an innocent driver who was sober. Nothing against your kid, but I hope they took his license. Jail is probably not only the safest place for him, but he can get clean and maybe get scared straight. I would not bail him out or pary for an attorney or he will learn that mom will rescue him if he does bad things. I know you dont want to help him feel free to take dangerous chances. Forget him crying to you that he learned his lesson. Pure manipulation. He has common mental health problems....anxiety, depression. I have both and more, but they are treatable and he is aware that self medication will just make them worse. He needs to be the one to treat his mental health issues because he is a legal adult. I had to do it at 18. He is capable of getting help too. It is not an excuse to dis your house rules and drive intoxicated. This isnt your fault. Its 90 percent his fault. Dad is guilty of buying him a car. Once you see your son as a legal adult, even though immature, you will maybe stop making excuses for his very deliberate bad behavior. Immaturity goes hand in hand with drug use, even if the person is 50. He needs to grow up and take responsibility. He is young enough to decide on rehab and to not be a drug lifer. But they dont do it if we are there enabling them and excusing them. Al anon is very helpful for parents of adult substance abusers. It even can help those who are not religious. I am spiritual but not religious and the commaraderie, understanding and friendship got me through the worst of it. I welcome you and wish only the best. Be good to yourself. Dont let him ruin your life. You are seperate people. Detach, detach detach. [/QUOTE]
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