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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 629693" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is what's wrong with the picture.</p><p></p><p>He is 33 and close to my son's age 36. He is saying he is hungry. There are many places that offer food for indigent people, if he is indigent and not doing illegal activities that net him money. There are food cards so he can buy food. I am very leery when I hear "I am hungry." I think it is a way to pull at our heartstrings more than the truth. I would NOT send him any mney at all. If you feel the need to consider he MAY be hungry, find a gas station or food store, let him buy a few items and pay over the phone. Any money in their hands is usually money for drugs or alcohol and not food or rent or anything else they claim it is for. Pay the person who can offer the service, not your son. If he gets crazed over your doing that, then you know he isn't hungry, he's needing drugs.</p><p></p><p>Another thing wrong with it is the level of disrespect he is showing you and the amount of times he is calling you. That is harassment. I'd ignore it. Turn off the phone. Don't listen to the messages. You know what they are saying. Bascially "I.want.money." Do they call us much for anything else? Hang up on him during phone calls if he is rude, abuses you, or gets verbally violent. That's what I do. I did it so often that 36 actually is starting to talk nice to me because he knows I will refuse to talk to him for several days if he even raises his voice. I told him, "I need you to talk to me with the same calmness and respect I talk to you. Otherwise, I will quietly hang up and we will try again a few days later, when I am ready." </p><p></p><p>Both of our sons are hitting middle age and way to old to be acting like babies.</p><p></p><p>I'm 60 like you and the rest of my life is going to be serene and peaceful and no toxic people who abuse me can address me unless they can be nice. And I give money voluntarily, not to enhance something I'm not sure of. That includes my easy child children...I don't have enough money to just hand it out but sometimes I feel like getting them something and I do and THEY are grateful...you'd think they were given the world. 36 is not like that. Although I don't have much to give him, and although he makes a good living, he always wants more money and goes to my wealthy ex for money and ex gives it to him, which is his decision. Now he has a rich girlfriend too. If I type about it anymore, I will get sick so I'll leave it at that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 629693, member: 1550"] This is what's wrong with the picture. He is 33 and close to my son's age 36. He is saying he is hungry. There are many places that offer food for indigent people, if he is indigent and not doing illegal activities that net him money. There are food cards so he can buy food. I am very leery when I hear "I am hungry." I think it is a way to pull at our heartstrings more than the truth. I would NOT send him any mney at all. If you feel the need to consider he MAY be hungry, find a gas station or food store, let him buy a few items and pay over the phone. Any money in their hands is usually money for drugs or alcohol and not food or rent or anything else they claim it is for. Pay the person who can offer the service, not your son. If he gets crazed over your doing that, then you know he isn't hungry, he's needing drugs. Another thing wrong with it is the level of disrespect he is showing you and the amount of times he is calling you. That is harassment. I'd ignore it. Turn off the phone. Don't listen to the messages. You know what they are saying. Bascially "I.want.money." Do they call us much for anything else? Hang up on him during phone calls if he is rude, abuses you, or gets verbally violent. That's what I do. I did it so often that 36 actually is starting to talk nice to me because he knows I will refuse to talk to him for several days if he even raises his voice. I told him, "I need you to talk to me with the same calmness and respect I talk to you. Otherwise, I will quietly hang up and we will try again a few days later, when I am ready." Both of our sons are hitting middle age and way to old to be acting like babies. I'm 60 like you and the rest of my life is going to be serene and peaceful and no toxic people who abuse me can address me unless they can be nice. And I give money voluntarily, not to enhance something I'm not sure of. That includes my easy child children...I don't have enough money to just hand it out but sometimes I feel like getting them something and I do and THEY are grateful...you'd think they were given the world. 36 is not like that. Although I don't have much to give him, and although he makes a good living, he always wants more money and goes to my wealthy ex for money and ex gives it to him, which is his decision. Now he has a rich girlfriend too. If I type about it anymore, I will get sick so I'll leave it at that. [/QUOTE]
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