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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 637074" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You can do what you want, but there would be no way I'd pay a dime towards his debts to his friends and I'd be fuming that he spent his paycheck on fun and quit. The money train would be over. But that's me.</p><p></p><p>difficult children are kind of jerks. That's why they are difficult children. They are also very entitled and feel their parents should support them forever, and most don't like jobs. Any jobs. Unless they can sit down all day and earn a fortune doing nothing...lol. My kids had no choice. They either worked, including difficult child, or he had nothing but cheap clothing and whatever food I felt like buying. In the end, it has turned out well. They all do have good work ethics, even difficult child.</p><p></p><p>None of my kids ever slept until noon except on weekends when they were off school or work. It was not allowed. I was too soft on some things, but not work. I was death on work. Whatever else they were, I did not want deadbeat kids. difficult child is even good about paying his child support and has never missed it. If our difficult children marry, chances are they will have kids and get divorced...and if they don't pay, they face the shame of going to jail for non-payment. They have to be responsible in SOME way. 36 would live off of anyone who would support him if he could, but he wants his bills paid and his credit score to be good. Obviously he wishes his father would do all that, but he won't so it falls upon difficult child to do it and he does.</p><p></p><p>I can't urge people enough that, even if they have the means to support their grown kids, don't do it. They will never grow up in any way or be able to support themselves if the money rolls in from Dad and Mom. Non-difficult children want to make it on their own. difficult children want to be daddy and mommy's leeches forever. If we don't force the issue by withholding anything fun from them, they resist all the more. To me that includes use of the car unless they pay insurance (their part of it) and gas, cell phone, anything that isn't essential. It's easier to get them to work at age 18 than at age 38 if they have not been doing anything but taking our gifts.</p><p></p><p>JMO. And experience.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 637074, member: 1550"] You can do what you want, but there would be no way I'd pay a dime towards his debts to his friends and I'd be fuming that he spent his paycheck on fun and quit. The money train would be over. But that's me. difficult children are kind of jerks. That's why they are difficult children. They are also very entitled and feel their parents should support them forever, and most don't like jobs. Any jobs. Unless they can sit down all day and earn a fortune doing nothing...lol. My kids had no choice. They either worked, including difficult child, or he had nothing but cheap clothing and whatever food I felt like buying. In the end, it has turned out well. They all do have good work ethics, even difficult child. None of my kids ever slept until noon except on weekends when they were off school or work. It was not allowed. I was too soft on some things, but not work. I was death on work. Whatever else they were, I did not want deadbeat kids. difficult child is even good about paying his child support and has never missed it. If our difficult children marry, chances are they will have kids and get divorced...and if they don't pay, they face the shame of going to jail for non-payment. They have to be responsible in SOME way. 36 would live off of anyone who would support him if he could, but he wants his bills paid and his credit score to be good. Obviously he wishes his father would do all that, but he won't so it falls upon difficult child to do it and he does. I can't urge people enough that, even if they have the means to support their grown kids, don't do it. They will never grow up in any way or be able to support themselves if the money rolls in from Dad and Mom. Non-difficult children want to make it on their own. difficult children want to be daddy and mommy's leeches forever. If we don't force the issue by withholding anything fun from them, they resist all the more. To me that includes use of the car unless they pay insurance (their part of it) and gas, cell phone, anything that isn't essential. It's easier to get them to work at age 18 than at age 38 if they have not been doing anything but taking our gifts. JMO. And experience. [/QUOTE]
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