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He wants to spend the night.
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 663467" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I hope you do, in a daze. </p><p></p><p>Maybe I am imagining my own son here, but I fear he will punish you in some way or another. You have nothing you have to prove.</p><p></p><p>This is your weekend, too. You do not need to subordinate your own tranquility because he is guilt-tripping you.</p><p></p><p>Do you really want to see him? Or do you feel like doing something else, like read, relax, be at home with your husband alone? What is best for you? Do it.</p><p></p><p>We do not help them by playing into their martyr scripts, their desire to be dependent or rescued. It is demeaning to them. They hold it against us. We pay one way or another.</p><p></p><p>We can choose to get off the treadmill. It is OK. Do what you want. You will get stronger. So will your son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 663467, member: 18958"] I hope you do, in a daze. Maybe I am imagining my own son here, but I fear he will punish you in some way or another. You have nothing you have to prove. This is your weekend, too. You do not need to subordinate your own tranquility because he is guilt-tripping you. Do you really want to see him? Or do you feel like doing something else, like read, relax, be at home with your husband alone? What is best for you? Do it. We do not help them by playing into their martyr scripts, their desire to be dependent or rescued. It is demeaning to them. They hold it against us. We pay one way or another. We can choose to get off the treadmill. It is OK. Do what you want. You will get stronger. So will your son. [/QUOTE]
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