He went this morning

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by PonyGirl65, Apr 21, 2016.

  1. PonyGirl65

    PonyGirl65 Active Member

    I missed a call at 6am this morning from the County Jail, they left a voice mail telling me my son had been transported to prison today, and had left my name as the person to collect his property.

    All I have to do is go to the Huber entrance, and have a photo ID.

    I'm hyperventilating.

    Ok not really, but my heart kinda feels like it could jump right outta my chest.

    I knew this was coming - it's been six weeks since the sentencing. But somehow, the recorded voice in my phone sounding so matter-of-fact....

    Well, I didn't realize I would need to go pick up his stuff. So there's that.

    Breathe. Pray. Repeat.

    Asking for cyber hugs today, my friends!
  2. youngfool

    youngfool Member

    Been thinking of you pony that sounds like an awful thing to have to do you have my prayers and hugs and I'm hopeful for you I have so enjoyed your response to my post I feel so sorry for you but I'm glad to hear from you keep us posted
  3. so ready to live

    so ready to live Active Member

    OH Pony...a huge hug for you...my eyes burned as I read...how difficult to get a recording...I wouldn't have thought about having to get his things either.
    Here's hoping this stint will get him straight---but TODAY do everything you can for YOU. Know our hearts are with you...there really aren't words (though I
    tried to make some) Prayers.
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  4. Lil

    Lil Well-Known Member

    :group-hug: I can't imagine what an awful feeling it must be. Know that we are all in your corner and thinking of you.
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  5. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    What a tough call to get, and what a tough task you have ahead of you. Please bring someone with you to the jail for moral support. Then, go do something on the way back home to distract yoruself.. a nice meal out somewhere. And maybe a margarita :)

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  6. RN0441

    RN0441 100% better than I was but not at 100% yet

    Sorry for your agony.

    I tell myself that this is all in God's plan for my son. We cannot change the course of what he has in store for our children.

    That is what I think of when I feel panic rushing over me. It gives me peace and hopefully it can give you some peace too!
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  7. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    Know that we are all right there with you.

  8. Tiredof33

    Tiredof33 Active Member

    I also firmly believe this is their life plan. Only they can change the direction. I remember so many weekends spend driving 2 hours there, 2 hours home, in heavy traffic to visit my son. He was sentenced to 18 months rehab TWICE and still was arrested for selling pot last year. My son will be 38 in July and is still so immature, he has just joined a punk band when most people are thinking about retirement. Not to dis musicians!

    I thought I would go insane. Find a hobby and keep yourself busy. There is nothing you can do, they have to learn their lessons. Hopefully one day they will lead a better path!

  9. Origami

    Origami Active Member

    Just lending my support and a cyber hug! My son hasn't been to prison, but the county jail experience was enough to rock me to the core for a while. Wishing the best for you and that you can find some peace and distraction.
  10. Albatross

    Albatross Well-Known Member

    Joining in on the group hug, Ponygirl. I think taking a friend with you and having something nice to do afterwards is a wonderful idea.
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  11. Kathy813

    Kathy813 Well-Known Member Staff Member


  12. Scent of Cedar *

    Scent of Cedar * Well-Known Member

    Giant hugs. How cruel a thing, to leave such a heartless message at such an hour on such a day.

    How awful for you.

  13. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Apparently. ..they forgot these beloved children are people. Must go for family too. I am so sorry.
  14. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry...hugs.
  15. recoveringenabler

    recoveringenabler Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm so sorry. Sending you a big hug.


    Do something nurturing and kind for yourself.

  16. 1905

    1905 Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry as well, it's so awful.
  17. PonyGirl65

    PonyGirl65 Active Member

    Thank you fellow warrior parents! Your kindness and heartfelt compassion has lifted me up, today.

    I have asked my husband to go pick up GFG31's belongings, he works in the same town as the county jail. I called the jail to ask if that was acceptable, but could only leave a message and have not yet heard an answer. I'm going to just send husband there anyway, see what happens.

  18. TheWalrus

    TheWalrus I Am The Walrus

    What an awful way to find out and without warning, which makes it worse. I know those feelings are overwhelming, but they will ebb. Everything with our children is ebb and flow, the tide comes in and it goes back out again. When those feelings recede, take solace in the fact that there is nothing you can do, it is out of your hands, and you can let go for the time being and focus on yourself. It is in his hands for now, to learn from his choices or not. And just like him, it is your choice how to move forward from here. You can do this.
  19. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    This must be heartbreaking.:group-hug:
  20. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Hugs... I don't have any words of wisdom, but I am here.