I can't get my son, who is on the autism spectrum, to shower. Yesterday, we were in the car and he was mighty ripe. This after he claimed he'd taken a shower. My daughter and I were almost gagging, although we were trying not to show him. When I brought up that he may need a shower, he said, "I took one. It's my shirt that smells, not me." That's always possible. He usually takes off his smelly shirts and hangs them back up rather than bringing them down to the washing machine. I don't really 'get' this obsession with hanging up dirty clothes. I am the one who does the laundry, not him. It bugs me that he won't just bring his unwashed clothes downstairs. Sometimes he DOES smell because he puts on dirty shirts. Other times, he just hasn't showered. Yes, we can force her to shower, but it drives me nuts, and it consists of making a big deal about it. My son doesn't care if other people don't like the way he smells. My daughter is another issue. She hates her hair. As I've said, she is biracial and her hair is more AA than caucasian. She won't wear braids because "they hurt." She won't wear it down, although it looks lovely, because "it's too frizzy." She pulls every inch of her hair back in a ponytail, which cuts her hair. The short little hairs stick out as the day wears on. Her ponytail, which she won't braid, sticks out all over and it looks like she never combs her hair. I've had several mothers kindly offer to do her hair if I can't. How embarassing. Now my daughter is VERY worried about what people think of her, but she truly thinks this is the best way to wear her hair. I've been letting it go because I don't want to make an issue out of it--I know she wishes her hair was long and straight. Should I just leave this issue alone until she decides to do something els with her hair? The rubberbands she uses are eating her hair, but I guess it'll grow back...lol. As for my son, anyone have an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) child who doesn't care how he smells? The funny thing is, he is uber-sensitive about smells, but doesn't seem to be able to smell himself...lol. I realize there could be worse problems, but my son is a big boy--five foot four and 170 lbs. He sweats a lot. Open to any/all comments/suggestions on either child.