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Healthy brother won't support himself
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 708058" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have two words: You can't.</p><p></p><p>He is a senior citizen now and was allowed to mooch all his life. Your parents allowed it. Your father still does. Your brother cared not one bit about your elderly parents or he would have stopped mooching years ago but they enabled him. They allowed it to happen. At 55 he has no job experience, no resume, no motivation and apparently no caring for anyone but himself. There are no magic words that will make him at least flip burgers. He probably wants more money than that.</p><p></p><p>This sadly is the consequence of anyone supporting an adult child all his life.</p><p></p><p>Not only can you not make brother work but you can't stop elderly father from giving him money unless he is incompetent.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure you have tried talking about this before through the years to your parents and to this brother but the money kept flowing to this brother and he kept on collecting it. And Dad is still doing rescuing this 55 ,year old man. Is Dad still competent? If not, who is in control of his affairs?</p><p></p><p>Very sorry you have this brother. I think it starts with Dad or else just let it go if Dad won't listen and you know it. Since Brother isn't beating up Dad and if Dad is lucid and willing, I don't think this constitutes elder abuse, but you can report it and see...</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 708058, member: 1550"] I have two words: You can't. He is a senior citizen now and was allowed to mooch all his life. Your parents allowed it. Your father still does. Your brother cared not one bit about your elderly parents or he would have stopped mooching years ago but they enabled him. They allowed it to happen. At 55 he has no job experience, no resume, no motivation and apparently no caring for anyone but himself. There are no magic words that will make him at least flip burgers. He probably wants more money than that. This sadly is the consequence of anyone supporting an adult child all his life. Not only can you not make brother work but you can't stop elderly father from giving him money unless he is incompetent. I'm sure you have tried talking about this before through the years to your parents and to this brother but the money kept flowing to this brother and he kept on collecting it. And Dad is still doing rescuing this 55 ,year old man. Is Dad still competent? If not, who is in control of his affairs? Very sorry you have this brother. I think it starts with Dad or else just let it go if Dad won't listen and you know it. Since Brother isn't beating up Dad and if Dad is lucid and willing, I don't think this constitutes elder abuse, but you can report it and see... Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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