difficult child called husband at the office yesterday to tell him she was signing her lease at 4:00. She won't call me because she knows I'm upset about the whole thing of moving into an apartment that she cannot afford, is in a rough part of town, and she is leaving all her sober friends and the handwriting is on the wall in bold letters.
I promised myself I was not going to check her cell phone or bank account and I've been very good about that, it just makes me upset and there's nothing I can do about it. But today I had to pay some bills on-line so when I logged into my bank account I could see her checking and savings. She has $32 in checking but she told husband she had to write a check for $950 for rent and security dep. She has $1100 in her savings. That leaves $150 and payday isn't until next Friday. Anyway I knew what she did, she wrote a check and expected it would come out of her savings. I debated what to do so I called husband to tell him and he texted her that she had to transfer money from savings to checking or it would bounce. I almost thought to just let it go and bounce and teach her a lesson, but I brushed it off on husband.
So she called me today and asked if I was going to be home tomorrow around 6:30 pm and that she was renting a u-haul and wanted to come by and get a few things. She then asked of she could have the couch and loveseat in the basement. husband and I already talked about that and is high when she can't pay her rent or starts drinking again. On the other hand it would get it out of the basement and make it easier on us because we are trying to downsize our furnishings now that both girls are gone. So I agreed she could take the couches.
Now comes the part I am ashamed about. I went to wallmart and bought her two floor lamps and a tv converter and antenna so she could at least watch local tv. She won't have internet but that's her problems. And the worst part is I then went to target and got her a small coffee table because she has no dining table or chairs and will have to eat on something.
I will probably end up regretting helping her but my mommy heart feels so bad that we helped easy child move just four months ago and we are doing nothing to help her and she will literally have nothing.
I asked who she was bringing to help move and she said her friend. I asked if her friend has a name and she said Eric. I told husband I wanted him to make sure he got home by 6:30 tomorrow so he is home when they get here.
Nancy
I promised myself I was not going to check her cell phone or bank account and I've been very good about that, it just makes me upset and there's nothing I can do about it. But today I had to pay some bills on-line so when I logged into my bank account I could see her checking and savings. She has $32 in checking but she told husband she had to write a check for $950 for rent and security dep. She has $1100 in her savings. That leaves $150 and payday isn't until next Friday. Anyway I knew what she did, she wrote a check and expected it would come out of her savings. I debated what to do so I called husband to tell him and he texted her that she had to transfer money from savings to checking or it would bounce. I almost thought to just let it go and bounce and teach her a lesson, but I brushed it off on husband.
So she called me today and asked if I was going to be home tomorrow around 6:30 pm and that she was renting a u-haul and wanted to come by and get a few things. She then asked of she could have the couch and loveseat in the basement. husband and I already talked about that and is high when she can't pay her rent or starts drinking again. On the other hand it would get it out of the basement and make it easier on us because we are trying to downsize our furnishings now that both girls are gone. So I agreed she could take the couches.
Now comes the part I am ashamed about. I went to wallmart and bought her two floor lamps and a tv converter and antenna so she could at least watch local tv. She won't have internet but that's her problems. And the worst part is I then went to target and got her a small coffee table because she has no dining table or chairs and will have to eat on something.
I will probably end up regretting helping her but my mommy heart feels so bad that we helped easy child move just four months ago and we are doing nothing to help her and she will literally have nothing.
I asked who she was bringing to help move and she said her friend. I asked if her friend has a name and she said Eric. I told husband I wanted him to make sure he got home by 6:30 tomorrow so he is home when they get here.
Nancy
