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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 658882" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>In our house we were taught nothing. No rules, no boundaries, no skills in life. I wouldn't call them "helicopter." I'd say they didn't care or understand it was important. This is a disaster waiting to happen. </p><p></p><p>My own kids are very able to take care of themselves, even my autistic son...he does almost everything on his own, including, since he doesn't drive, using cabs and riding his bike to, say, his softball practice. It was important to me that my kids be independent and have a strong work ethic. No free cars. No free designer clothes. Part time jobs at age sixteen, if possible, and no bail outs if you make poor choices.</p><p></p><p>I was a bit worried about Jumper's work ethic as she can be lazy around the house and with chores, but when she came home from college this summer she got a job right away in a nursing home. She works her tail off and has to wipe butts and change diapers. And she is not complaining, wants all the hours she can get for the money. (Tell all your DCs who say there are no jobs that nursing homes are very desperate for help and t hat you do not need certification to work there).</p><p></p><p>So Jumper seems to have the same work ethic of all of my other adult children.</p><p></p><p>I just never bought that it was good to give your kid everything, just because you didn't have it or because you could afford it. In the end, I sort of believe that makes our kids lets able or willing or both as adults....</p><p></p><p>Helicopter parents need to land the helicopters and let their children verging on adulthood (17 or so) do the hard stuff they will have to do in order to function in life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 658882, member: 1550"] In our house we were taught nothing. No rules, no boundaries, no skills in life. I wouldn't call them "helicopter." I'd say they didn't care or understand it was important. This is a disaster waiting to happen. My own kids are very able to take care of themselves, even my autistic son...he does almost everything on his own, including, since he doesn't drive, using cabs and riding his bike to, say, his softball practice. It was important to me that my kids be independent and have a strong work ethic. No free cars. No free designer clothes. Part time jobs at age sixteen, if possible, and no bail outs if you make poor choices. I was a bit worried about Jumper's work ethic as she can be lazy around the house and with chores, but when she came home from college this summer she got a job right away in a nursing home. She works her tail off and has to wipe butts and change diapers. And she is not complaining, wants all the hours she can get for the money. (Tell all your DCs who say there are no jobs that nursing homes are very desperate for help and t hat you do not need certification to work there). So Jumper seems to have the same work ethic of all of my other adult children. I just never bought that it was good to give your kid everything, just because you didn't have it or because you could afford it. In the end, I sort of believe that makes our kids lets able or willing or both as adults.... Helicopter parents need to land the helicopters and let their children verging on adulthood (17 or so) do the hard stuff they will have to do in order to function in life. [/QUOTE]
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