Hello Friends....

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by JKF, Dec 4, 2013.

  1. JKF

    JKF Well-Known Member

    I just wanted to pop in a say hello. It's been a while since I've posted.

    difficult child is still out in Idaho. There have been a few bumps in the road but he likes it there and my dad is willing to work with him on the things he's struggling with. They have their fights sometimes but it's nothing violent and they make up fairly quickly after cooling off.

    difficult child is learning quite a bit from my dad. He is in charge of building maintenance and keeping his room to my dad's standard of clean (which is pretty **** clean hence my Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) about keeping my own house clean! Lol) There have been a couple of times when he didn't do a given task or chore but he's learning quickly that everything better be in tip top shape when grandpa comes for an inspection. It's nice to see that he's being held accountable for his actions and he wants to make sure my dad doesn't get grumpy with him so he's been doing his work! He made a couple of friends out there and he's taking his medication daily. For the most part he seems happy and that's alone makes me very happy!

    I think back to where we were this time last year. He was just about to be released from jail in PA and begin his nearly year long journey of homelessness. How we survived that I truly don't know. There were so many dark times and I felt like the #1 worst failure of a mother for the longest time. It took time and hard work and practicing detachment skills daily and here I am - one year later - stronger than ever. And because of that difficult child is doing better than he's done in a long time.

    So anyway - I just wanted to say hello to my dear friends here and see how you're all doing. :D
  2. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Well-Known Member

    What a fantastic update!!!!! So glad to read this. :)
  3. recoveringenabler

    recoveringenabler Well-Known Member Staff Member

    :hi5::hapydancsmil: I am so happy for you!!!! And for difficult child.
  4. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Awesome! Enjoy your holidays!
  5. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Fabulous update!!!! Woot!!!!

    Thanks for stopping in and letting us know how things are going.

  6. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    What a wonderful post to read. I'm so glad he's doing so well!
  7. Marcie Mac

    Marcie Mac Just Plain Ole Tired

    Good post. Truth in the matter, for some reason, some of our difficult child's do well living elsewhere. A 6 month trip to live with my mom did eldest a world of good

  8. scent of cedar

    scent of cedar New Member

    JKF, this is just what I needed to hear, today. Every time one of our kids finds his way out of that downward spiral, it boosts my faith that it can happen.

    Really happy for you!

    This is wonderful news. I am so glad you posted.

  9. Tiredof33

    Tiredof33 Active Member

    (((JFK))) I'm so happy for you and difficult child! Enjoy the holidays.
  10. in a daze

    in a daze Well-Known Member

    Thanks for posting, JKF. I've been thinking about you. I am so glad things are working out for you and your son!
  11. Hopeless

    Hopeless ....Hopeful Now

    This was a great post to read when I got online. Happy for you both!