I cannot handle this anymore. I am at the bottom of the barrel and don't know if I can pick myself out of it. DS - 13 is making everyone in our house miserable and has for years. Quick background - In preschool he was very aggressive, hitting, biting, kicking multiple times a week - huge fits - and this continued until he was about 8ish. In Kindergarten Phsych put him on ADHD medications. After counseling in 1st grade they put him on BiPolar (BP) medications and Risperdal which he was on for about 1.5 years. He has continued to take ADHD medications this whole time but I also know he suffers from depression. When all this was going on they diagnosed him with ADHD, BiPolar (BP) and ODD and had many Asperger symptoms. I really wasn't so sure about the BiPolar (BP) but knew for a fact he needed ADHD medications to get through his school day. He is a straight A student, all his friends, teachers, coaches love him because he can be so caring and sweet, but when school started this year his ODD has gotten very bad ONLY at home. I have a daughter, 8 , at home and am 2.5 months pregnant with another baby and am worried about them now. My husband is his step-dad, but we have been married for 10 years now. Austin is explosive, definiant, rude, and just down right mean. We have rules in our house and he feels that we don't even have the right to ask him to do his homework or take a shower. He is VERY angry at us for not letting him hang out at girls' houses, all his friends are girls, so we only let him go to activities in group situations due to our dating rules. I am calling dr today and a psychologist, but I just can't take this anymore. My husband now wants to keep out of his way due to the hurt feelings and daughter is afraid of him. Last night when my husband and I went to bed, he asked me if I thought we were in danger of being hurt by Austin. I couldn't sleep because I am more worried about him hurting himself. I don't know where to turn. We have been the dr route before and I have taken classes, read books, and just feel hopeless. I don't know if this can ever be fixed, if we can ever have a normal family. Please help.