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<blockquote data-quote="agee" data-source="post: 377790"><p>My son was also adopted from Russia - he is 8 now and he was adopted at 15 months. See my signature for his various diagnoses - I have no doubt that many of his issues were caused by fetal alcohol exposure but it's a tough diagnosis. to get with no real birth history and no physical features. So we're thinking about seeing a Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) specialist, but not sure of the point since a diagnosis. would be doubtful.</p><p>Anyway, my son used to have terrible rages and a couple things helped <em>us</em>. This is not to say it will help your daughter - it's so hard to extrapolate kid to kid, but perhaps a nugget of this will be useful to you.</p><p>First, the right medications. Strattera made my kiddo more moody and did nothing for his ADHD symptoms. Vyvanse has been what's helped us. It is the only thing with-o terrible rebound for us. And Depakote has been the wonder drug in our case - this really, really smoothed out his moods so that we have a semblance of family life. Before Depakote we were in reaction/management mode all the time. It was awful. Abilify did nothing, as did Risperdal.</p><p>Next, my attitude. You didn't describe how you and your husband are with her, but it can be very stressful and trying to be around a child who is so foul all the time. I've had to completely change my day to fit his needs - when we're at home I'm "on" 100%. It's all about remaining calm and being prepared for what might happen. I am lucky in that I was able to quit my out-of-the-house job and do some work at home which I mostly do when he and his brother are at school - this has cut down on family stress hugely, which has cut down on child stress and child reactions as well.</p><p>Finally, school. Last year was a terrible school year for difficult child. His teacher had no classroom control and that, plus medications change, led to nightly rages for the first 2 months of school. This year has been entirely different because his teacher is very different. Being in a calm, well-managed, highly structured environment all day long naturally leads to good regulation at home.</p><p>I have found that when he is most out of control he feels most out of control. More structure, clear boundaries, and fewer choices make him mad but also help him out a lot.</p><p>I know I didn't answer your question about physicality during agression - my difficult child doesn't really do that so I don't have specific suggestions for that. But good luck to you!</p><p>A</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="agee, post: 377790"] My son was also adopted from Russia - he is 8 now and he was adopted at 15 months. See my signature for his various diagnoses - I have no doubt that many of his issues were caused by fetal alcohol exposure but it's a tough diagnosis. to get with no real birth history and no physical features. So we're thinking about seeing a Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) specialist, but not sure of the point since a diagnosis. would be doubtful. Anyway, my son used to have terrible rages and a couple things helped [I]us[/I]. This is not to say it will help your daughter - it's so hard to extrapolate kid to kid, but perhaps a nugget of this will be useful to you. First, the right medications. Strattera made my kiddo more moody and did nothing for his ADHD symptoms. Vyvanse has been what's helped us. It is the only thing with-o terrible rebound for us. And Depakote has been the wonder drug in our case - this really, really smoothed out his moods so that we have a semblance of family life. Before Depakote we were in reaction/management mode all the time. It was awful. Abilify did nothing, as did Risperdal. Next, my attitude. You didn't describe how you and your husband are with her, but it can be very stressful and trying to be around a child who is so foul all the time. I've had to completely change my day to fit his needs - when we're at home I'm "on" 100%. It's all about remaining calm and being prepared for what might happen. I am lucky in that I was able to quit my out-of-the-house job and do some work at home which I mostly do when he and his brother are at school - this has cut down on family stress hugely, which has cut down on child stress and child reactions as well. Finally, school. Last year was a terrible school year for difficult child. His teacher had no classroom control and that, plus medications change, led to nightly rages for the first 2 months of school. This year has been entirely different because his teacher is very different. Being in a calm, well-managed, highly structured environment all day long naturally leads to good regulation at home. I have found that when he is most out of control he feels most out of control. More structure, clear boundaries, and fewer choices make him mad but also help him out a lot. I know I didn't answer your question about physicality during agression - my difficult child doesn't really do that so I don't have specific suggestions for that. But good luck to you! A [/QUOTE]
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