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<blockquote data-quote="200Meters" data-source="post: 756333" data-attributes="member: 23727"><p>The Prisoner Rehabilitation Authority (PRA) called me back. I spoke to the Jerusalem District director for young offenders. He said that they knew Youngest, had visited him in the pokey (as they do every short-time young prisoner) and were rebuffed . Youngest said he was uninterested in their help. Youngest phoned this morning. I told him I had spoken with the PRA and his reply (roughly translated) was: "They're the government. They're sons-of-b!tches." Youngest has a very deep-seated (I would say "pathological" but I am not a mental health professional) distrust and suspicion of established, institutional authority of any kind. Youngest is convinced that only he can help himself and that if the subject is himself, he knows better than anyone. So, the nice PRA gentleman said that they have all sorts of programs (vocational, educational, employment, etc., etc.) that Youngest could benefit from if he is interested but added that if Youngest wants in, he has to be all in, meaning urine tests, joining a group, etc. This is exactly the sort of thing that Youngest turned his back on at that Jerusalem day center last year. I told the nice PRA gentleman that hopefully, we would be speaking again soon but Mrs. 200Meters & I are not holding our breath.</p><p></p><p>Copabanana, while the fact that both Youngest and Oldest are adopted is (always) part of their general mix, I don't know that it is directly at fault, or to blame, here. Youngest once told us that he has no desire to meet his biological father (an Israeli citizen; his biological mother was a foreign national in Israel illegally, she left the country after agreeing to place Youngest for adoption; all domestic adoptions in Israel are public and closed). Youngest said: "He can go jump off a roof. You're my parents." But he is sensitive about it. Part of why he went so livid the night he cut off his ankle thinggie and ran away, breaking house arrest, was that a friend of his ex-girlfriend called him "adopted" in a very pejorative way. For Oldest, being adopted was more of an issue growing up. But his and Youngest's current problems are much bigger and deeper than their being adopted.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I don't feel myself falling into a spiritual abyss. For me it's more of a personal malaise. G-d lets me breathe, and I have been married for 31+ years to the most amazing woman on the planet, I cannot complain. G-d doesn't owe me anything.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>What sucks is that our best apparently hasn't been good enough vis-a-vis our children.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yup.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And hopefully not watch our children go splat.</p></blockquote><p>[/QUOTE]</p>
[QUOTE="200Meters, post: 756333, member: 23727"] The Prisoner Rehabilitation Authority (PRA) called me back. I spoke to the Jerusalem District director for young offenders. He said that they knew Youngest, had visited him in the pokey (as they do every short-time young prisoner) and were rebuffed . Youngest said he was uninterested in their help. Youngest phoned this morning. I told him I had spoken with the PRA and his reply (roughly translated) was: "They're the government. They're sons-of-b!tches." Youngest has a very deep-seated (I would say "pathological" but I am not a mental health professional) distrust and suspicion of established, institutional authority of any kind. Youngest is convinced that only he can help himself and that if the subject is himself, he knows better than anyone. So, the nice PRA gentleman said that they have all sorts of programs (vocational, educational, employment, etc., etc.) that Youngest could benefit from if he is interested but added that if Youngest wants in, he has to be all in, meaning urine tests, joining a group, etc. This is exactly the sort of thing that Youngest turned his back on at that Jerusalem day center last year. I told the nice PRA gentleman that hopefully, we would be speaking again soon but Mrs. 200Meters & I are not holding our breath. Copabanana, while the fact that both Youngest and Oldest are adopted is (always) part of their general mix, I don't know that it is directly at fault, or to blame, here. Youngest once told us that he has no desire to meet his biological father (an Israeli citizen; his biological mother was a foreign national in Israel illegally, she left the country after agreeing to place Youngest for adoption; all domestic adoptions in Israel are public and closed). Youngest said: "He can go jump off a roof. You're my parents." But he is sensitive about it. Part of why he went so livid the night he cut off his ankle thinggie and ran away, breaking house arrest, was that a friend of his ex-girlfriend called him "adopted" in a very pejorative way. For Oldest, being adopted was more of an issue growing up. But his and Youngest's current problems are much bigger and deeper than their being adopted. I don't feel myself falling into a spiritual abyss. For me it's more of a personal malaise. G-d lets me breathe, and I have been married for 31+ years to the most amazing woman on the planet, I cannot complain. G-d doesn't owe me anything. What sucks is that our best apparently hasn't been good enough vis-a-vis our children. Yup. And hopefully not watch our children go splat.[/quote] [/QUOTE]
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