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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 757264" data-attributes="member: 22597"><p>I'm sorry for the frustration this caused. These Difficult Child's of ours often bite their noses to spite their face and there's no telling them differently. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Copa, I get your puzzlement and disgust here--our son, Josh, would rather collect unemployment right now than work. Of course, I have to admit that if he had taken the one job he was offered, instead of turning it down, he would have most likely been furloughed soon after, but still...the whole work ethic thing of "dignity in work" is seemingly lost on him. I said something the other day about our plan to move to my husband's home state to be near his parents, so we can help care for them, and he commented that we should just let the other kids take care of them and not worry about it. I guess when we need help, we probably shouldn't expect any from him. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Oh my goodness, when I read this, I thought about how many times I have felt that way. I look at people who have excellent adult children, and I think, "What did they do that we didn't? 'Cause it sure seemed like we were doing all the right things." It's such a disappointment. All I ever wanted in life, after a good marriage, was to have children who grew up to be responsible, caring, human beings who love, respect, and honor their parents. Our youngest is pretty good, although he could do better in some things, but Josh is a disappointment, and I too think at times, "What do I have to show for all the love I put into parenting?" I do think, though, that maybe God brought Josh into our lives more for our sake, to change us, than for his sake. We have definitely had to grow in the areas of trust, patience, perseverance, and unconditional love. </p><p>So glad you and your wife have one another and are close--that makes a huge difference! </p><p></p><p>Feeling kind of bummed today, as today was our planned flight to Israel which, thanks to Covid19, has gone by the wayside. </p><p></p><p>Blessings to all today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Beta, post: 757264, member: 22597"] I'm sorry for the frustration this caused. These Difficult Child's of ours often bite their noses to spite their face and there's no telling them differently. Copa, I get your puzzlement and disgust here--our son, Josh, would rather collect unemployment right now than work. Of course, I have to admit that if he had taken the one job he was offered, instead of turning it down, he would have most likely been furloughed soon after, but still...the whole work ethic thing of "dignity in work" is seemingly lost on him. I said something the other day about our plan to move to my husband's home state to be near his parents, so we can help care for them, and he commented that we should just let the other kids take care of them and not worry about it. I guess when we need help, we probably shouldn't expect any from him. Oh my goodness, when I read this, I thought about how many times I have felt that way. I look at people who have excellent adult children, and I think, "What did they do that we didn't? 'Cause it sure seemed like we were doing all the right things." It's such a disappointment. All I ever wanted in life, after a good marriage, was to have children who grew up to be responsible, caring, human beings who love, respect, and honor their parents. Our youngest is pretty good, although he could do better in some things, but Josh is a disappointment, and I too think at times, "What do I have to show for all the love I put into parenting?" I do think, though, that maybe God brought Josh into our lives more for our sake, to change us, than for his sake. We have definitely had to grow in the areas of trust, patience, perseverance, and unconditional love. So glad you and your wife have one another and are close--that makes a huge difference! Feeling kind of bummed today, as today was our planned flight to Israel which, thanks to Covid19, has gone by the wayside. Blessings to all today. [/QUOTE]
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