Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by mari7413, Nov 15, 2007.

  1. mari7413

    mari7413 New Member

    Hi all! I'm sorta new here, directed by a good friend. A little about me. I'm a 30 yr old single mommy (for the last almost 4 years) with two children. Brittany is 11 and Tyler is 6. I work at a vocational/rehab facility for people with visual impairments and blindness as a career counselor. I LOVE to read, listen to good music, do puzzles (Sudoku’s become a favorite), watch movies, and play tennis with the kidlets.

    I wish I came on happier notes, alas...it's not happy at all.

    My son, Tyler, is 6 years old. He has been diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, Major Depression, and Anxiety. Lots of tags to put on a little man. Now, Tyler's diagnosed as bipolar.

    I've always suspected that he was. Even in the delivery room right after his birth, I looked at my mother and said, "This one's different" It was if God was whispering in my ear, I just knew it.

    I could type up a whole book on Tyler. He's the text book bipolar. Rapid cycles, threatens to kill himself, and me, totally up one second, totally down the next. Has horrible rages over nothing of significance. Night terrors, bed wetting, foggy mornings, insanely smart, if you've read "The Bipolar Child" he meets 98% of the "signs and symptoms". After watching him, he's even hypersexual. :crying:

    I just want a place where people understand, support me, give me suggestions on day to day activities, and share stories with me so I know I'm not the only one dealing with this madness.
  2. Sheila

    Sheila Moderator

    Hi maria

    We can sure sympathize with you. lol And we understand the daily grind of raising difficult children.

    Welcome. :smile:
  3. ck1

    ck1 New Member

    I just wanted to say welcome and you have definitely come to the right place. Everyone here can empathize in some way and offer very wise advice!
  4. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    Welcome, again! :smile: Sorry, you had to look us up again, but I am glad you found us.

    My teenager has bi-polar, and I wish I could tell you it has gotten easier as he has gotten older, but unfortunately it has not. It is a tough daily grind. I can empathize completely with you and your journey, and you are definitely not alone.

    Is your son on medications?
  5. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    Welcome, yes we definately understand here. Hope we can be supportive for you.

  6. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Welcome to the board. :flower: :skate:
  7. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    Hiya Mari!

    You found that place. This is a soft, safe place to land. And you are by no means the only one. There are lots of warrior moms with plenty of wisdom on the board here.

    Welcome to our family...
  8. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    Ditto to what they all said! Welcome to the crowd!

  9. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Just adding in my welcome-glad you found us. You are not alone! :flower:
  10. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

    Welcome to the board! :sled:
  11. LittleDudesMom

    LittleDudesMom Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Hi Mari,

    Welcome to the site. It's good to hear a friend recommended you join us. It's very comforting to knwo that there are others out there who understand. I'm sure you find support and comfort here :angel:.

  12. mari7413

    mari7413 New Member

    Not yet. We're having a hard time finding someone who treats early onset bipolar. He was on ADHD medications when he was 4 - 5 but they were horrible. I finally took him off of those.
  13. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Hi Mari. Welcome.

    Just out of curiosity, what was it that was different when he was born?

    My difficult child was diff, too--didn't coo and gurgle sweetly--he screamed and growled. He was and is very loud. He also had a grip that could rival and pro wrestler. He only slept for 2 hrs at a time and has always had sleep deprivation issues. He is better now ... sleeps 8 -9 hrs if we can get him to sleep at night.
  14. LitlPixy

    LitlPixy New Member

    Yes, welcome to the board. When I tell people about this board and how much relief I've gotten from it, they look at me like I'm a fruitcake!
  15. ShakespeareMamaX

    ShakespeareMamaX New Member

    Welcome! :flower:

    I, actually, have a question for you. How do they go about Dxing a younger child with bipolar? My son's 8 and I swear up and down it's what he has, but he psychiatrist won't even talk about the subject.

    He has a lot of the same symptoms as your difficult child, as well.

    What ADHD medications has he been on and what were the reactions he had?

    P.S. I love your quote. It's so true...
  16. mari7413

    mari7413 New Member

    He was different at birth, yes. He was screaming his bloody (no pun intended) head off before his shoulders were out. He was a total high needs baby the whole way. He didn't sleep, and would only quiet down when he was in my arms and on the breast.

    My difficult child has a strong family history on both sides of his family. ADHD and Bipolar children, although have a lot of the same signs and symptoms, are very different as well. ADHD children break things in hyped up play, bipolar children break theme in anger. ADHD kids go into fits/rages when they've been over stimulated, bipolar kids do when having boundries set or by a "no" from a parent. ADHD children show their fits anywhere, bipolar children tend to save their's for home, espically with-mom. There's other symptoms. Might I recommend the book, "The Bipolar Child", it's been a wealth of information for us.
  17. Allan-Matlem

    Allan-Matlem Active Member

    I am sorry about your child's challenges. I recommend a buddy -tutor , older brother. The site http://www.jbrf.org/ can be useful , there is a questionaire that you can answer and other resources. Maybe check with a children's hospital for references for doctors. Treatment needs to take into account the whole child , not only medication.

    I hope this helps
  18. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    From one Mother to another I Welcome you... From one Mother with a special needs child who has sought out support and friends to another I welcome you...
  19. pnuts

    pnuts New Member

    Welcome. I am pretty new here too. It has been really good support here for me. My difficult child has bipolar disorder too. He's 12.... He, too has pretty much walked to the beat of a different drum. Difficult as it is for us, I know in my heart that it is a million times more difficult for him.
    This is a good place to be for support. :thumbsup: