It's been a long time and I missed the boards. I'll short hand the update. * difficult child is still at Residential Treatment Center (RTC), refusing treatment but it's better than the lockdown facility he could have gone to. * No significant change in behavior * We've spoken twice in last 6 weeks due to incredibly silly difficult child episode. My car broke down & I had both difficult child and DXH yelling in my ear literally, DXH on the phone & difficult child next to me in car. Both were mad because I wouldn't deliver difficult child to DXH. Hellooooo the car won't start & I wasn't sure how I was going to get to the new job the next day. * That leads me to the other good thing. I got a better job, closer to home (to & from work for the week on a single tank of gas) & I'm saving $100/month on my health insurance. The atmosphere is amazing and the women I work with are vivacious and smart. * difficult child is now visiting ONLY dad, because of the car incident listed above. * I took my grow up pill and actually allow the visits to continue even though DXH has no legal custody or visitation. Doesn't feel real good but if I denied him visits he'd just blame me more. * Got an awesome new therapist who helped me outline a very safe conversation to have with difficult child and I've done it twice now. Not a bad deal. That's it for me. Hope a peaceful weekend finds us all.