DramaQueenLucy
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So it's been about a year since I was last here, long story as to why so I'm not gonna get into it.
Now on to the issue at hand DS19 is living at home wanting to have me take care of everything for him. He is a senior in High School graduating in May. Stopped taking medications and visiting the therapy doctor in January of this year.
He doesn't want to grow up. Doesn't want to work for anything and behaves like it is just going to fall into his lap. An example he quit his job last May and has been looking since then. I asked him several times a week what he had done to look for a job and finally last June he looked at me and said "well it's the summer and I don't have school so I figured I would take the summer off like other kids." I told him "um..no I don't think so find a job I'm not paying for your gas and insurance." So he claims that he went out looking but I found out later from my niece he was driving around and going over to her house! Now here it is 10 months later and he still hasn't 'found' a job. Well this is a bunch of **** I've taken his car away and threatened to sell it if he doesn't have a job in 10 days. He has had chance after chance. He claims he is going to look for a job but god only knows what he is really doing.
It is the same thing with school stuff he wants to go to collage but didn't find out last year what his grades need to be to get into the program for free community collage. So now almost 2 years after he signed up he doesn't qualify because his grades are too low. He didn't do anything about his insurance expiring even though I told him what he needed to do and then when he finally did it he needed to ask me a million questions to finish it.
I could go on and on with this but it comes down to the fact that he wants everything to fall into his lap and not have to work for it. I'm going to be forced into selling his car and he knows this but still puttered around the house playing video games, eating junk food and watching movies all weekend! I'm going to put a for sale sign on the car April 1st if he doesn't have a job.
Now the question is do I really sell the car? I'm not going to be able to afford the car or at least him driving it. It costs me about $300.00 per month not including repairs. He would need it for school but who knows if he'll even make it to school if he never made it out job hunting? I just don't know what to do
Now on to the issue at hand DS19 is living at home wanting to have me take care of everything for him. He is a senior in High School graduating in May. Stopped taking medications and visiting the therapy doctor in January of this year.
He doesn't want to grow up. Doesn't want to work for anything and behaves like it is just going to fall into his lap. An example he quit his job last May and has been looking since then. I asked him several times a week what he had done to look for a job and finally last June he looked at me and said "well it's the summer and I don't have school so I figured I would take the summer off like other kids." I told him "um..no I don't think so find a job I'm not paying for your gas and insurance." So he claims that he went out looking but I found out later from my niece he was driving around and going over to her house! Now here it is 10 months later and he still hasn't 'found' a job. Well this is a bunch of **** I've taken his car away and threatened to sell it if he doesn't have a job in 10 days. He has had chance after chance. He claims he is going to look for a job but god only knows what he is really doing.
It is the same thing with school stuff he wants to go to collage but didn't find out last year what his grades need to be to get into the program for free community collage. So now almost 2 years after he signed up he doesn't qualify because his grades are too low. He didn't do anything about his insurance expiring even though I told him what he needed to do and then when he finally did it he needed to ask me a million questions to finish it.
I could go on and on with this but it comes down to the fact that he wants everything to fall into his lap and not have to work for it. I'm going to be forced into selling his car and he knows this but still puttered around the house playing video games, eating junk food and watching movies all weekend! I'm going to put a for sale sign on the car April 1st if he doesn't have a job.
Now the question is do I really sell the car? I'm not going to be able to afford the car or at least him driving it. It costs me about $300.00 per month not including repairs. He would need it for school but who knows if he'll even make it to school if he never made it out job hunting? I just don't know what to do