It's been awhile since I've posted, but there is no better place to get some direction then here. easy child who is 12 and I witnessed a pretty gruesome accident last week. A friend (not close) of hers had a riding accident and how she hurt herself was by far the most horrific thing she (or I for the matter) have ever seen. At the time easy child was ok with it, I actually thought I had gotten her away from it before she saw it because she was so calm about it. I fell apart that night with husband and she was still ok with it. She had a couple of tears about her friend with concern and sadness and some dreams about it. She has ridden a couple of times since then jumping over the same jump with no problems, until last night. She and her pony had a difference of opinion over that same jump and she almost fell off. She continued through the night but seemed down. I thought it was because she and I had a disagreement before but as soon as she got in the car, she fell apart. She said it all came back to her what happened to her friend and she was terrified to jump that jump but because she kept making mistakes over it, her coach would make her do it again. She said nothing to anyone as that's just her personality. We talked about it, we reasoned through it, we went through everything I could think of to help her. She woke up this morning still in a haze. Is this all normal when witnessing something horrific? Is there something more I should be doing or saying to her? I told her I thought it would just take time but she spends four days in the same place where it happened so I don't know if that makes a difference. Any suggestions would be great.