Hi, I mostly post on the General Board. My difficult child 1 is 18 and a freshman in a local community college. She has major depression which ramps up unpleasantly when she is premenstrual and for the first few days of her period. Over the past four years, since her dad and I separated and have since divorced (he lives two miles away with her brother, who has behavioral issues and can't live fulltime with me and the girls), her moods and behavior have been volatile. She's had five inpatient hospitalizations, more medication and combos than I can list, and although she went willingly to the same therapist for three years, I can't say there wasmuch improvement. She dabbles in marijuana but I wouldn't say she's a big druggie. First of all, she refuses to get a job and doesn't have any money. Not that she's really feeling the pain. College is already taken care of with a 529 account, she doesn't drive (failed her test and is too anxious to retake it) but takes the bus to college, but I have to pick her up from the bus stop....she has very few friends and she misses her social life from high school. It's more difficult to make new friends at a community college than a residential one, but she is in no shape emotionally or academically to go away to school right now. Okay, get to the point. Two months ago she stopped taking her medication, Prozac, 80 mg. (90 when she's PMSing) with-o telling anyone. She has done this numerous times in the past, cold turkey, and she inevitably crashes and ends up in the hospital after threatening to hurt herself. After geting off to a good start in comm coll, she is refusing to go to school and turn in projects (she wants to be an interior designer and the two prerequisite classes she is taking seem to be too difficult or tedious for her to concentrate on). I'm sure it's because she stopped taking her medications. She's irritable and exhausted, wants to sleep all the time, has gained a ton of weight from eatign and not moving and hates herself. Shortly after she stopped taking the prozac she assaulted me while I was driving her, slapped her dad across the face and complained tot he police that he had shoved her. She got a misdemeanor summons and we are still going to court. She is supposed to see a therapist at least 10 times before January 6, get a part time job, take her medications if prescribed, and not lay a hand on anyone. She hasn't done anything to help herself. I vacillate between wanting to help her fix it and wanting to wash my hands of her. Her depression and refusal to help herself are draining me (I have my own depression) but I feel guilty that I've created her dependence on me by permitting her to manipulate me with her illness. My therapist says let her go, but then she will fail school, get more depressed, not get a job, and if she doesn't complete the court requirements, she will have a misdemeanor on her record for life. I printed out a list of psychiatrists on our insurance plan (if she goes below full time student status her health insurance is gone) because I don't believe she can do anything to help herself until she is evaluated by a medical doctor. I told her to call the guy and make the appointment, I will get her to it any pay the copay. She hasn't done anything. I called her this morning and she is refusing to get dressed and go to school. I'm not going to her dad's house to coax her out of bed. Been there done that. Do I let her sink? My own anger and resentment towards her is coloring my view of reality. Her dad is worried about her but other than wringing his hands, hes of little help. He doesn't, however, give her money or other wise enable her. I stopped giving her cash for incidentals once she started school. She has gone through $1,000.00 in savings since August and doesn't even have bus fare anymore. Should I call her college and speak to her advisor and tell them that she is failing because she went off her medications? Do they care? I just don't know what to do anymore or how much to help her.