So continuing the story from my previous post (this support group fell from the heavens), the update is husband came home upset as difficult child keeps calling him needing more clothes, more medications, etc. Now he's upped the ante and is calling crying and at least my husband doesn't answer. But husband is just acting all angry and distant towards me and my 15yo son. This is really killing him as he is the softy, and I know this after 30 years of marriage. I'm the tough one and my heart is screaming "Go get him now. Bring him home. Hug him and tell him he is loved and he will see what a loving home and family he has". But I know my head says "No hold your ground. Stay strong. This is for him. And the 15yo." BUT MAN IS THIS RIDICULOUSLY HARD Thank all of you for your encouragement on the other post and it helps me. husband just left (to go sit at a cigar bar probably....I know he's not meeting him for a fact) and I had printed out some other threads relative to our situation. You guys are amazingly good and I believe you so much more than my therapist who tells me the same things, but SHE is not US, right? She is a professional, it is her job to tell me this. You are parents you have lived this. That being said, two questions (besides needing more positive vibes): 1. Can some of you post the pretend type phone calls you have had with your gtg while they are out of the house....there was something like this on another thread and it was AWESOME. 2. Are there ANY success stories on these boards at all?? All I read is they just get older and don't change. Thanks for sharing.