Hi--- I'm Christy and i need help. I have 14 year old twins---girls. One has just been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. The other hasnt been tested. I know they both have ODD---and being a single mom--- I am dying here. My children wont even let me talk. I remember how close we were when they were young. We did so much together and now, it seems that life isnt worth living anymore. I take care of everything by myself and I cant do anything right. If I start to say something, they'll say "I dont want to hear it"--- or "can we just not talk about this now'? They argue with each other all the time over the littlest things. I cant get in a word edgewise. Everything upsets them, closing a cabinet when one is reading. They are rude, cruel and disrespectful. But only to me. We are in family therapy and they say they want to talk more, but if I walk into the room, they go into another room. They have hated all my friends to the point that I stopped having anyone over. If I talk on the phone, they say I dont care about them. I dont date, I hardly go anywhere and everyday is a total battle. I hate it. I give them consequences but they dont care. Everything is my fault (according to them) and I try so hard---it isnt working. I thought I would give this board a try because I am exhausted, weary and so unhappy. I only get out about twice a year and they are so mad when I get back, I always wonder if it's even worth it. Can somebody please give me so effective advice? It's starting to affect my health, and it's breaking my heart. Anyone?