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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 19367" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>I have siblings who feel that way whenever our mom visits us. H and I? We just go on with life as usual. My mom enjoys having part of her days alone and then sharing dinner and evenings with her. She doesn't like to be babysat or to feel as if she's intruding on our lives. Since you didn't say if your mother in law is demanding in anyway, is there a possibility she can be an alliance for you? You know, one evening have HER suggest that you and H go out to dinner or whatever?</p><p></p><p>My in-laws are horrible houseguests and when they visit, I feel like I'm stuck on Hostess mode - it's so confining and H is absolutely useless because he's in such a struggle with his father to assert his own adulthood (even at 45). </p><p></p><p>I need to give myself breaks. I will either go for a walk, do some weeding in the garden or watering, take a nap (aka read quietly in my room). When H sees me doing these things, he gets annoyed with me, as if I'm ignoring his parent's visit, which could not be further from the truth (I do all the cooking, cleaning and laundry for them, up at dawn down past midnight, it's exhausting). This past summer, H and I had plans when his parents showed up - we had to include them, which basically stunk, because it was our anniversary. I tried to get H to make them change thier plans, to no avail. </p><p></p><p>I wish I had a suggestion for you, but I think that this is something only your H can tackle, perhaps with counseling. In the meantime, it looks like you've created an excellent way to live your life with mother in law is visiting - good for you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 19367, member: 2211"] I have siblings who feel that way whenever our mom visits us. H and I? We just go on with life as usual. My mom enjoys having part of her days alone and then sharing dinner and evenings with her. She doesn't like to be babysat or to feel as if she's intruding on our lives. Since you didn't say if your mother in law is demanding in anyway, is there a possibility she can be an alliance for you? You know, one evening have HER suggest that you and H go out to dinner or whatever? My in-laws are horrible houseguests and when they visit, I feel like I'm stuck on Hostess mode - it's so confining and H is absolutely useless because he's in such a struggle with his father to assert his own adulthood (even at 45). I need to give myself breaks. I will either go for a walk, do some weeding in the garden or watering, take a nap (aka read quietly in my room). When H sees me doing these things, he gets annoyed with me, as if I'm ignoring his parent's visit, which could not be further from the truth (I do all the cooking, cleaning and laundry for them, up at dawn down past midnight, it's exhausting). This past summer, H and I had plans when his parents showed up - we had to include them, which basically stunk, because it was our anniversary. I tried to get H to make them change thier plans, to no avail. I wish I had a suggestion for you, but I think that this is something only your H can tackle, perhaps with counseling. In the meantime, it looks like you've created an excellent way to live your life with mother in law is visiting - good for you! [/QUOTE]
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