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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 19564" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>I cannot believe how posting is helping me to see things differently.</p><p></p><p>Thanks, guys, for listening and sharing.</p><p></p><p>The other part of what is happening here is that the mother then complains about her stomach or her bowels or feeling fat or bloated.</p><p></p><p>It is all so very strange!</p><p></p><p>Of course she feels bloated or uncomfortable. She is seventy eight, and eats more food than I think I have ever seen anyone consistently eat in my life.</p><p></p><p>I mean, we all overeat sometimes ~ but she does not seem to take any joy in what she eats.</p><p></p><p>She just wants it there.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes, she eats like she is starving (and I am not kidding ~ right down to the sound effects).</p><p></p><p>Other times, after she has insisted that husband take her to the grocery stors to get what she likes (which have been pastries and doughnuts and chocolate and that kind of thing ~ oh yes, and a box of raisin bran) THESE THINGS SHE DOES NOT EAT, UNLESS I SET THEM OUT FOR HER WITH HER COFFEE IN THE MORNING.</p><p></p><p>Then, husband makes her breakfast.</p><p></p><p>OR SHE WILL NOT EAT.</p><p></p><p>I make her lunch. (husband has been escaping from the house altogether for two to three hours and more every day). If I do not make the mother lunch? (Which I then sit with her and eat, although I have not eaten lunch as a matter of course in my whole life.) If I don't do that? She does not eat lunch, either. Then, she complains about how hungry she is.</p><p></p><p>AND NO ONE SAYS A WORD WHILE WE EAT WHATEVER MEAL IT IS, YOU GUYS. </p><p></p><p>What I have been doing is trying to do happy hour with my husband anyway ~ I just heat leftover chicken or something for the mother (since she is tired of salami, pepperoni and asiago cheese ~ and what she wants is dinner).</p><p></p><p>The more I write, the more I see husband's point. This IS all about something other than providing hospitality and making a guest comfortable. </p><p></p><p>The mother has destroyed Happy Hour, if you think about it.</p><p></p><p>She has alienated my from my own husband, because I think he treats her terribly.</p><p></p><p>I feel pretty silly now, alright.</p><p></p><p>Cheesh, ladies.</p><p></p><p>How am I ever going to make it through the next eight or nine days or whatever it is.</p><p></p><p>Even the poor dog does not want to go near the mother anymore.</p><p></p><p>husband thinks it is because she smothers it with affection and even the dog is sick of it.</p><p></p><p>I don't even know what to think, anymore.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 19564, member: 3353"] I cannot believe how posting is helping me to see things differently. Thanks, guys, for listening and sharing. The other part of what is happening here is that the mother then complains about her stomach or her bowels or feeling fat or bloated. It is all so very strange! Of course she feels bloated or uncomfortable. She is seventy eight, and eats more food than I think I have ever seen anyone consistently eat in my life. I mean, we all overeat sometimes ~ but she does not seem to take any joy in what she eats. She just wants it there. Sometimes, she eats like she is starving (and I am not kidding ~ right down to the sound effects). Other times, after she has insisted that husband take her to the grocery stors to get what she likes (which have been pastries and doughnuts and chocolate and that kind of thing ~ oh yes, and a box of raisin bran) THESE THINGS SHE DOES NOT EAT, UNLESS I SET THEM OUT FOR HER WITH HER COFFEE IN THE MORNING. Then, husband makes her breakfast. OR SHE WILL NOT EAT. I make her lunch. (husband has been escaping from the house altogether for two to three hours and more every day). If I do not make the mother lunch? (Which I then sit with her and eat, although I have not eaten lunch as a matter of course in my whole life.) If I don't do that? She does not eat lunch, either. Then, she complains about how hungry she is. AND NO ONE SAYS A WORD WHILE WE EAT WHATEVER MEAL IT IS, YOU GUYS. What I have been doing is trying to do happy hour with my husband anyway ~ I just heat leftover chicken or something for the mother (since she is tired of salami, pepperoni and asiago cheese ~ and what she wants is dinner). The more I write, the more I see husband's point. This IS all about something other than providing hospitality and making a guest comfortable. The mother has destroyed Happy Hour, if you think about it. She has alienated my from my own husband, because I think he treats her terribly. I feel pretty silly now, alright. Cheesh, ladies. How am I ever going to make it through the next eight or nine days or whatever it is. Even the poor dog does not want to go near the mother anymore. husband thinks it is because she smothers it with affection and even the dog is sick of it. I don't even know what to think, anymore. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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