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Help, my 8 year old is a thief.
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 61275" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Can't say you overreacted. Finding out your child is a thief <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" />. PERIOD. It is hard to not react to that. It is even harder to have to face the world knowing your child takes things without permission.</p><p></p><p>I think the trick is deciding how to react when this happens in the future. As I said, it helped me to understand that this was pure lack of impulse control in my daughter. The thefts were never planned.</p><p></p><p>If yours is like mine, she only gets that she will get in trouble rather than it is a wrong thing to do because she would happily give the world anything of hers that they wanted. Mine really doesn't get the concept of "yours" or "mine." Rather, it is more the Middle Eastern concept of if you want it, it is yours. Or the Native American version of it is mine for now, yours when you express a desire for it and mine when I need it back.</p><p></p><p>by the way -- No matter how much you give your child of your time, things, etc., if the need is great enough, you will never be able to give enough. Learn now to keep time for you. Don't sacrifice everything for your child. In the long run, it makes no difference and all you do is end up resenting all you have lost and your child takes it for granted that the world will give her what she wants. I did my daughter a huge disservice by giving too much and not teaching her enough that the world expected her to earn her own way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 61275, member: 3626"] Can't say you overreacted. Finding out your child is a thief :censored:. PERIOD. It is hard to not react to that. It is even harder to have to face the world knowing your child takes things without permission. I think the trick is deciding how to react when this happens in the future. As I said, it helped me to understand that this was pure lack of impulse control in my daughter. The thefts were never planned. If yours is like mine, she only gets that she will get in trouble rather than it is a wrong thing to do because she would happily give the world anything of hers that they wanted. Mine really doesn't get the concept of "yours" or "mine." Rather, it is more the Middle Eastern concept of if you want it, it is yours. Or the Native American version of it is mine for now, yours when you express a desire for it and mine when I need it back. by the way -- No matter how much you give your child of your time, things, etc., if the need is great enough, you will never be able to give enough. Learn now to keep time for you. Don't sacrifice everything for your child. In the long run, it makes no difference and all you do is end up resenting all you have lost and your child takes it for granted that the world will give her what she wants. I did my daughter a huge disservice by giving too much and not teaching her enough that the world expected her to earn her own way. [/QUOTE]
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