So I'm already having difficulties with the school regarding son. I posted briefly in another thread, and thought I got a meeting time in motion. I guess not. At the advice of the ESE coordinator, I called the teacher but got her voicemail, and never got a call back. When I called Friday to find out about the meeting time, she said she figured that since I was calling teacher we didn't need a meeting. Well, I never got a hold of teacher, and never got a call back, so now what? Then I got an email scheduling the meeting for next Wednesday - GREAT. then I got another saying the teacher couldn't make it, sorry she thought it would be the following week, so, "let's just see how things go and plan on a meeting the following week, and maybe Mrs A can keep us updated via email" Ah, yeah, OK, that would be great if Mrs A ever sent me an email, but she hasn't. She did call and discuss son with me last Friday, but that was it. So, here's my letter. Any feedback is appreciated. What a marvelous plan! Let's wait one more week, just to see how it goes, and allow J to 'choose' more invisible zeros. Then, once he's in danger of failing the class, we can sit in Ms P's (the guidance counselor) office and ask him to try harder. If you did not pick up on my sarcasm and sense my frustrations, I will say that yes, I was being sarcastic because I am beyond frustrated " as is J. If Wednesday is not good, I am now available Tuesday morning before school and up until 9:30am. J's appointment in R has been rescheduled for a later time. Referring to Ms A's email to Ms C (ESE coordinator) dated August 18[SUP]th[/SUP]: 'J has chosen to take yet another zero in lab work. Nothing has changed " I cannot force him to lab.' First of all, J does NOT 'choose' to take zeros. He his highly capable of doing lab work. What he has difficulty with is working in groups, and more specifically finding his own group to work with. J did NOT choose to be born with Asperger's and does NOT choose to be highly deficient in social skills. In fact he has worked VERY hard to acquire and hone the skills he does have. These are skills that neurotypical people learn naturally and take for granted. Giving him zeros for not participating in group activities is like giving a student with one leg a zero for not running track. The only difference is that the missing leg is a VISIBLE disability. Secondly, the statement that 'nothing has changed' is completely untrue! Monday August 15[SUP]th[/SUP], J did participate in lab " a change. Thursday August 18[SUP]th[/SUP] again he did not participate " another change. Then Friday, he participated again. When he came home from school on Thursday, I was able to determine what the differences between the days were by questioning him in detail. According to J, on Monday, he was ASSIGNED to a group, and on Thursday he was required to find his own group. This is a HUGE difference in J's processing of social skills. I asked if there were any students in the class that he was comfortable with. He identified one student. I suggested he ask that student if they could be permanent lab partners. When he came home from school on Friday he reported that he followed my advice, and successfully got himself into a lab group. Unfortunately, he told me that the student he had asked said, 'Sure, whenever I can'. In other words, the student is not making a semester long commitment to J. I completely understand this student's position, as does J. So currently, J has managed to solve his own problem as long as this other student is willing to partner up with him. If this other student, on any given lab day, chooses to partner up with other students, then J will be back to square one and not participating. I have done MY part in specifically identifying J's current issues with doing group lab work, so I hope that you all can find solutions for him when he's incapable of finding his own group. I HOPE that J can be given alternate lab assignments to make up the missing work. I may be mistaken, but I do not believe that the Sunshine State Standards require that lab work MUST be done in groups.