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Help, school b.s. is about to start again! IEP meeting friday
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<blockquote data-quote="HaoZi" data-source="post: 591882" data-attributes="member: 15793"><p>Good luck and remember not to sign anything. I'm glad I didn't, because the draft I got a look at finally *whistles* Mama not too happy. My advocate wasn't able to make it but will meet with me Monday to go over the IEP draft.</p><p></p><p>Yes Storm has some additional accommodations that I agree with, but they changed her homework 50% accommodation to "<span style="color: #333333">shortened assignments by 1/2 when deemed appropriate." Ummmm....nope, that doesn't fly with me. Too vague. Who decides when it's appropriate? Teacher? Me? Storm? Someone else? Sent that puppy back for a re-write already. They glossed that over in the meeting notes as "Mom's concern about changes" instead of specifically stating that I asked about her homework accommodations. So now I'm asking for even more and for them to be more specific - excerpt from my email about that particular part of the draft is below (which to me is the most critical part that needs changing that I noticed, most of the rest is errors, like who diagnosis'd what, spelling of her medications, etc).</span></p><p><span style="color: #333333"></span></p><p><span style="color: #333333">Technically, we don't have to re-do her IEP, we can go forward with what she has, it only has to be re-done every 3 years. But they'd like it re-done, and done before the end of the school, and preferably by May 1st. Me, I'm more than willing to drag this out well into July if I have to, it's no skin off my nose to do so. Her therapist, case worker, and advocate work year round, too, so they're around if needed, too. </span></p><p><span style="color: #333333"></span></p><p><span style="color: #333333">I did warn them at the beginning (and maybe they thought I was kidding) when we were introducing ourselves at the meeting. "Hi, I'm her Mom, and I'll be your biggest pain today." They laughed a little at the time. But I don't walk into an IEP meeting expecting to be liked, I walk in with the intention of getting the best I can for my child. Is she doing better now than she was at the beginning of the year? Yes, she is. But she won't do better if you yank those accommodations out from under her while adding a goal of turning in 90% of her work.</span></p><p><span style="color: #333333"></span></p><p><span style="color: #333333">"</span><span style="color: #444444"><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'">Homework accommodations (50% that of peers, same as last IEP) is not listed. This is also missing from the notes unless it's what is meant by "Mom's questions regarding changes were addressed." Please correct and specify.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #444444"><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'">"shortened assignments by 1/2 when deemed appropriate" is too vague - teachers are not autism experts and do not know what is too much stress/anxiety/frustration for an autistic student and each student has their own strengths/weaknesses and good/bad days. This will lead to outbursts not only at school but also at home, and I, for one, will not fight her much on this. She's gotten to the point where she is simply too big, too strong, and I have been hit/punched/scratched/bitten, had things thrown at me, etc. far too much over too many things. I carry enough scars now, physical, emotional, and mental, and putting my safety on the line for homework is foolhardy. If she can prove she knows the work by doing 5-10 math problems perfectly, there is no point in trying to make her do twice or three times the number.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #444444"><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'">Please keep daily homework assignments to half (like last year) and projects to be modified to be best played to her strengths and where those of us who can help her shore up her weaknesses can help her with those, but not overwhelm her with giant projects. Her executive functioning skills are lacking, and she does need help in those areas."</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HaoZi, post: 591882, member: 15793"] Good luck and remember not to sign anything. I'm glad I didn't, because the draft I got a look at finally *whistles* Mama not too happy. My advocate wasn't able to make it but will meet with me Monday to go over the IEP draft. Yes Storm has some additional accommodations that I agree with, but they changed her homework 50% accommodation to "[COLOR=#333333]shortened assignments by 1/2 when deemed appropriate." Ummmm....nope, that doesn't fly with me. Too vague. Who decides when it's appropriate? Teacher? Me? Storm? Someone else? Sent that puppy back for a re-write already. They glossed that over in the meeting notes as "Mom's concern about changes" instead of specifically stating that I asked about her homework accommodations. So now I'm asking for even more and for them to be more specific - excerpt from my email about that particular part of the draft is below (which to me is the most critical part that needs changing that I noticed, most of the rest is errors, like who diagnosis'd what, spelling of her medications, etc). Technically, we don't have to re-do her IEP, we can go forward with what she has, it only has to be re-done every 3 years. But they'd like it re-done, and done before the end of the school, and preferably by May 1st. Me, I'm more than willing to drag this out well into July if I have to, it's no skin off my nose to do so. Her therapist, case worker, and advocate work year round, too, so they're around if needed, too. I did warn them at the beginning (and maybe they thought I was kidding) when we were introducing ourselves at the meeting. "Hi, I'm her Mom, and I'll be your biggest pain today." They laughed a little at the time. But I don't walk into an IEP meeting expecting to be liked, I walk in with the intention of getting the best I can for my child. Is she doing better now than she was at the beginning of the year? Yes, she is. But she won't do better if you yank those accommodations out from under her while adding a goal of turning in 90% of her work. "[/COLOR][COLOR=#444444][FONT=Calibri]Homework accommodations (50% that of peers, same as last IEP) is not listed. This is also missing from the notes unless it's what is meant by "Mom's questions regarding changes were addressed." Please correct and specify.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#444444][FONT=Calibri]"shortened assignments by 1/2 when deemed appropriate" is too vague - teachers are not autism experts and do not know what is too much stress/anxiety/frustration for an autistic student and each student has their own strengths/weaknesses and good/bad days. This will lead to outbursts not only at school but also at home, and I, for one, will not fight her much on this. She's gotten to the point where she is simply too big, too strong, and I have been hit/punched/scratched/bitten, had things thrown at me, etc. far too much over too many things. I carry enough scars now, physical, emotional, and mental, and putting my safety on the line for homework is foolhardy. If she can prove she knows the work by doing 5-10 math problems perfectly, there is no point in trying to make her do twice or three times the number.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#444444][FONT=Calibri]Please keep daily homework assignments to half (like last year) and projects to be modified to be best played to her strengths and where those of us who can help her shore up her weaknesses can help her with those, but not overwhelm her with giant projects. Her executive functioning skills are lacking, and she does need help in those areas."[/FONT][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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