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Help: should I kick my son out of the house
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 720887" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Um, this is an easy one. If he wants to drop out of college, then it is time to get a full time job, move out, and lead an adult life with all of the responsibilities that come with that. He doesn't get a "few years" to loaf around at your expense.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Who wouldn't want to play games all day and go out with friends? You are making it possible by providing a place to live and food to eat.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>So he gets to do what he wants and treats you badly to boot?</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>He will learn that there is no free ride in life. He will have to grow up and act like an adult.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Have you been able to control his behavior and drug use so far? What makes you think that will change if you let him stay in your home?</p><p></p><p>My advice is to stop protecting him from the consequences of his behavior. I know that 19 seems young but if he doesn't want to go to school then he needs to get a job and move out. Remember that there are 19-year-old men and women in the military putting their lives on the line to protect our country.</p><p></p><p>I know how hard this is for you. My suggestion is to find support groups or a therapist or use a combination of both to help your through this. Learning to set boundaries is hard and it is easier with support.</p><p></p><p>We are here for you, too. Keep posting. Others will be along with their experiences and advice. Take what works for you and leave the rest.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 720887, member: 1967"] Um, this is an easy one. If he wants to drop out of college, then it is time to get a full time job, move out, and lead an adult life with all of the responsibilities that come with that. He doesn't get a "few years" to loaf around at your expense. Who wouldn't want to play games all day and go out with friends? You are making it possible by providing a place to live and food to eat. So he gets to do what he wants and treats you badly to boot? He will learn that there is no free ride in life. He will have to grow up and act like an adult. Have you been able to control his behavior and drug use so far? What makes you think that will change if you let him stay in your home? My advice is to stop protecting him from the consequences of his behavior. I know that 19 seems young but if he doesn't want to go to school then he needs to get a job and move out. Remember that there are 19-year-old men and women in the military putting their lives on the line to protect our country. I know how hard this is for you. My suggestion is to find support groups or a therapist or use a combination of both to help your through this. Learning to set boundaries is hard and it is easier with support. We are here for you, too. Keep posting. Others will be along with their experiences and advice. Take what works for you and leave the rest. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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