My 2nd grader had a bad day on Friday. I'm all over the place so if you see something I'm missing, let me in on it. I got a call from the v.p. on Friday, that my difficult child had a violent outburst and his class had to be cleared out due to his actions. The v.p. called me from his classroom asking me if I could come get him. My husband happened to be with me and we drove right to the school. I sent husband in to let him get some perspective. What the v.p. told me on the phone is that difficult child had stayed with his reading group after lunch. (He should have normally went to his afternoon teacher. I was never made aware of the fact that he has done this before.) While in the reading class difficult child had left his seat and went to the computer. He had left papers at the previous seat. When he returned he found another student in the seat he had been in. He got very mad and yelled at the boy. He left and about 10 minutes later went back to the boy and when he didn't move, he hit the boy with his pencil several times. The teacher intervened and my difficult child got mad and knocked over some chairs. She cleared the room out at this point. The v.p. was called and went to the classroom. She called me from the room. My difficult child was screaming and crying. I could hear him in the background. My husband thinks that if a man had been the teacher, our difficult child would have been put in his place and told to merely move on to another center. He thinks the teacher was over reactive. She is a new teacher and a tad timid, in my humble opinion. He thinks the whole thing has been overblown. Granted, I agree that most public co-ed schools are ultra-feminized, but the reality is that our son has extreme reactions to situations. My husband recalls that the v.p. told him that this incident changes the way his teacher handles things with him now. We are in the process of getting an iep now. We literally changed insurance companies a week ago and I have an inital apt. set up for Monday with a well-known developmental neurologist. I'm hoping for some testing referrals at this apt., but not sure what else to expect. As far as school for difficult child--what should I ask for? The teachers seem unprepared to deal with my difficult child. After the child study was initiated, the teacher sent my difficult child home with a week's worth of uncomplete work. In her note she wrote that it was due the next day or difficult child would be in the principal's office to have time to prepare it. I went in the next day to see her and told her that difficult child would not get sent to the principal's office for not doing his writing assignments. He has problems and sending him to an office would not help him. So, I'm wondering how to proceed and help my son in the interim without the iep in place yet? I'm wanting more info. from the new assessment's and any testing I can get done this month before the iep which should take place before the end of April. Appreciate ANY input here. Thanks.