Hello everyone here. I just signed up two days ago. I'm in a big bind at the moment. My 16 year old has been looking at disturbing child porn. And He is in over his head. Two months ago we found out he had been trying to videotape his siblings in the bathroom. I have triplets, 2 boys and a girl, 16, and another daughter turning 15 this month. We told his therapist. Mandated reporting, CPS came out and interviewed. You would think it would scare the crap out of him. He seemed to get his act together. Two days ago, we were suspicious and looked at his dad's Amazon order history. (Ex-husband, psychopath). Found that he had ordered spy cams. Plus he has a weird stash of sexual toys and diapers for God's sake. Like he has been leading this double life. And he lies. He was at school when my triplet daughter found these things. She's smart as a whip and knows her dad's passwords. Since we saw these things, we went on a search of his room. I found an sd card filled with horrible images - obviously downloaded from some sophisticated ring. So now I see he is probably trying to film his siblings to send the images as a sort of "payment." That's what I gather.
It's all too horrific.
I told his dad who picked him up from school and is keeping him at his house. He cannot live here. And the school he goes to is for kids on the spectrum, attention issues, or general learning disabilities. I won't get into the danger of him being in that environment. We had a sort of incident at the school two years ago where it was what I thought a misunderstanding. Apparently he somehow exposed himself to a younger child in the school bathroom. But it's impossible to find out exactly what happened. Now I know something must have. He had just started growth hormone for pituitary dwarfism. Testosterone overdrive and a ramp up of hormones. No excuses. Just what I believe.
Did the CPS visit scare him enough to set him straight? No. It set him up to be more careful. Thus the hidden cameras (yes, two). I found a mount he has already installed in their bathroom today.
Anyway, the problem today is, it has been reported to CPS by now. I spoke to his psychiatrist (on Vyvanse 40 mg and Abilify 5 mg) to let her know what I discovered. He is so good at playing people, making everyone think he's a victim. His lies.
My ex is of the opinion that as parents we do everything we can to cover up our children's actions, no matter how bad they may be. I disagree. Obviously I love my son and do not want to cause him pain and suffering. But I know right from wrong. Well, today I showed him the sd card and he almost passed out. Now he agrees our son must not go back to his school.
But I got a long text message warning us to destroy all our computers - he would pay me $5K in cash for the sd card alone. He offered to buy us all new computers. I wouldn't take it. I want my child to be held accountable. Not because I want to see him get hurt or suffer in a treatment center. But because I know right from wrong, and I do not want a child to be hurt due to my son. It could escalate.
He told me my husband of 5 years, my children's step father, could be brought up with charges for the images that are probably still somewhere on our home computers. I don't have much faith in our legal system and know the crooked nature of things. He said they are likely to get bonuses for bringing in a middle aged pedophile. A minor brought in won't mean anything for their paycheck. Is he trying to scare me? He said both my husband and I could go to jail for my son's actions. Pin it on the step dad. He told u to throw all devices into the ocean, smash them to smithereens, or else we are incriminating ourselves.
I will get into more details later, but now I'm terrified.
I'm desperate for support.
Please help if you can.
Thank you!
It's all too horrific.
I told his dad who picked him up from school and is keeping him at his house. He cannot live here. And the school he goes to is for kids on the spectrum, attention issues, or general learning disabilities. I won't get into the danger of him being in that environment. We had a sort of incident at the school two years ago where it was what I thought a misunderstanding. Apparently he somehow exposed himself to a younger child in the school bathroom. But it's impossible to find out exactly what happened. Now I know something must have. He had just started growth hormone for pituitary dwarfism. Testosterone overdrive and a ramp up of hormones. No excuses. Just what I believe.
Did the CPS visit scare him enough to set him straight? No. It set him up to be more careful. Thus the hidden cameras (yes, two). I found a mount he has already installed in their bathroom today.
Anyway, the problem today is, it has been reported to CPS by now. I spoke to his psychiatrist (on Vyvanse 40 mg and Abilify 5 mg) to let her know what I discovered. He is so good at playing people, making everyone think he's a victim. His lies.
My ex is of the opinion that as parents we do everything we can to cover up our children's actions, no matter how bad they may be. I disagree. Obviously I love my son and do not want to cause him pain and suffering. But I know right from wrong. Well, today I showed him the sd card and he almost passed out. Now he agrees our son must not go back to his school.
But I got a long text message warning us to destroy all our computers - he would pay me $5K in cash for the sd card alone. He offered to buy us all new computers. I wouldn't take it. I want my child to be held accountable. Not because I want to see him get hurt or suffer in a treatment center. But because I know right from wrong, and I do not want a child to be hurt due to my son. It could escalate.
He told me my husband of 5 years, my children's step father, could be brought up with charges for the images that are probably still somewhere on our home computers. I don't have much faith in our legal system and know the crooked nature of things. He said they are likely to get bonuses for bringing in a middle aged pedophile. A minor brought in won't mean anything for their paycheck. Is he trying to scare me? He said both my husband and I could go to jail for my son's actions. Pin it on the step dad. He told u to throw all devices into the ocean, smash them to smithereens, or else we are incriminating ourselves.
I will get into more details later, but now I'm terrified.
I'm desperate for support.
Please help if you can.
Thank you!