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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 703941" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am so sorry you are going through this horror.</p><p></p><p>I will tell you what I think, which is not to say you should act from it.</p><p></p><p>In many cultures 16 years old is a man. I agree with you to help him escape from consequences is to hurt him. And your primary responsibility is your other children, everybody else's children, and yourselves. Your children need you to, to raise them, over and above your own needs. You cannot risk doing something that might jeopardize your well-being, like destroy evidence.</p><p></p><p>If it were me I would consider working with CPS to have my son removed from my home, right now. He is showing himself to be impervious to consequences. It may be psychopathy, but It could be other things, too. The diagnosis is not the important thing right now, except in one important way. It will be the responsibility of the public school district to pay for a residential treatment program for him, long term. Where he can potentially get the help he needs.</p><p></p><p>I would try to not diagnosis him myself. Nor would I necessarily take the word of any one professional until there is a consensus of opinions <u>over time</u>. Right now it is time to be safe, to contain him.</p><p></p><p>I would take a proactive position with CPS and I would insist that my other children are protected--and by that you would be protecting your son, until he can get control over his impulses.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, you really cannot be sure If he has been molested or not. And it is not really that easy to determine whether he is indeed a pedophile, or acting out some dreadful scenario for other reasons.</p><p></p><p>Other people here will have different ideas, and you will be able to see what makes sense to you.</p><p></p><p>To destroy the computers might itself be a crime. I would for sure speak to an attorney about all of this, but certainly before I destroyed the evidence of potential criminality. By that I fear you could be in big trouble.</p><p></p><p>Again, I am sorry you are going through this, but glad you are here. Keep posting as you go through this. It will help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 703941, member: 18958"] I am so sorry you are going through this horror. I will tell you what I think, which is not to say you should act from it. In many cultures 16 years old is a man. I agree with you to help him escape from consequences is to hurt him. And your primary responsibility is your other children, everybody else's children, and yourselves. Your children need you to, to raise them, over and above your own needs. You cannot risk doing something that might jeopardize your well-being, like destroy evidence. If it were me I would consider working with CPS to have my son removed from my home, right now. He is showing himself to be impervious to consequences. It may be psychopathy, but It could be other things, too. The diagnosis is not the important thing right now, except in one important way. It will be the responsibility of the public school district to pay for a residential treatment program for him, long term. Where he can potentially get the help he needs. I would try to not diagnosis him myself. Nor would I necessarily take the word of any one professional until there is a consensus of opinions [U]over time[/U]. Right now it is time to be safe, to contain him. I would take a proactive position with CPS and I would insist that my other children are protected--and by that you would be protecting your son, until he can get control over his impulses. The thing is, you really cannot be sure If he has been molested or not. And it is not really that easy to determine whether he is indeed a pedophile, or acting out some dreadful scenario for other reasons. Other people here will have different ideas, and you will be able to see what makes sense to you. To destroy the computers might itself be a crime. I would for sure speak to an attorney about all of this, but certainly before I destroyed the evidence of potential criminality. By that I fear you could be in big trouble. Again, I am sorry you are going through this, but glad you are here. Keep posting as you go through this. It will help. [/QUOTE]
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