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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 703976" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>At the very least, I think.</p><p></p><p>The questions: is he molesting his own child? For how long? Has he inducted him into this lifestyle, for his own aims? Has he used him to procure sexual devices, material, films, and access to other children? Is your son acting out like a robot something that he has been forced to experience as a victim? Is your son now trying to master his own victimization, i.e. by identifying with the aggressor who victimized him?</p><p></p><p>At the very least, your ex, his father has enabled and allowed--and most probably instigated your child's access to material, whether toys, media, etc. Please consider this man's intense and frantic desire (indeed need) that you destroy, cover up HIS tracks.</p><p></p><p>All of this will be uncovered. I would take it very slow in terms of the kinds of perpetrator treatment in which you involve your child. Because on several levels (many, possible) he is a victim, first.</p><p></p><p>As far as I recall/know there is no serious acting out (yet) that we know of. So far, as I recall, it is more voyeurism, and the desire to film other children--and this may well have been promoted, even forced by his own father--or other people.</p><p></p><p>We do not know what other people, a network of people, of perpetrators who have victimized your son through the internet--with which his father may be involved, as well.</p><p></p><p>The thing is--there is a lot of stuff--still to come out. And that information, that experience will/should guide your son's treatment and recovery, before he is labeled a perpetrator.</p><p></p><p>I want to pose to you a question: If you were a child, and your father and/or other adults were not protecting you, in fact, they might be over-stimulating you, exposing you to experiences directly or indirectly that you were not able to process. Should not, should never had either seen or experienced. And your own parent, the one who is supposed to protect you, has indeed caused it, promoted it, wanted it? Sacrificed by your own parent. And if there is conflict in your own relationship with your son, and you doubt him, do not trust him, feel you are unable to handle him, (join the club, our club)...</p><p></p><p>Imagine the lack of trust, the cynicism, the withdrawal, the sense of abandonment, the self-destructiveness--that would come to a child from this situation. None of it, of his making.</p><p></p><p>So before we go to conduct disorder, perpetrator, psychopath, let us first examine the experience of this child, from his own point of view.</p><p></p><p>Of course I continue to say,<em><strong> contain him, keep the other children safely away, all children away. Get him treatment. Find out what happened to him, from a neutral and supportive, non-labeling place.</strong></em></p><p></p><p>I know you are dedicated to see that your child receives the help and support that he needs. I respect you and send my hope, and the little strength I have--to you.We, all of us, are here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 703976, member: 18958"] At the very least, I think. The questions: is he molesting his own child? For how long? Has he inducted him into this lifestyle, for his own aims? Has he used him to procure sexual devices, material, films, and access to other children? Is your son acting out like a robot something that he has been forced to experience as a victim? Is your son now trying to master his own victimization, i.e. by identifying with the aggressor who victimized him? At the very least, your ex, his father has enabled and allowed--and most probably instigated your child's access to material, whether toys, media, etc. Please consider this man's intense and frantic desire (indeed need) that you destroy, cover up HIS tracks. All of this will be uncovered. I would take it very slow in terms of the kinds of perpetrator treatment in which you involve your child. Because on several levels (many, possible) he is a victim, first. As far as I recall/know there is no serious acting out (yet) that we know of. So far, as I recall, it is more voyeurism, and the desire to film other children--and this may well have been promoted, even forced by his own father--or other people. We do not know what other people, a network of people, of perpetrators who have victimized your son through the internet--with which his father may be involved, as well. The thing is--there is a lot of stuff--still to come out. And that information, that experience will/should guide your son's treatment and recovery, before he is labeled a perpetrator. I want to pose to you a question: If you were a child, and your father and/or other adults were not protecting you, in fact, they might be over-stimulating you, exposing you to experiences directly or indirectly that you were not able to process. Should not, should never had either seen or experienced. And your own parent, the one who is supposed to protect you, has indeed caused it, promoted it, wanted it? Sacrificed by your own parent. And if there is conflict in your own relationship with your son, and you doubt him, do not trust him, feel you are unable to handle him, (join the club, our club)... Imagine the lack of trust, the cynicism, the withdrawal, the sense of abandonment, the self-destructiveness--that would come to a child from this situation. None of it, of his making. So before we go to conduct disorder, perpetrator, psychopath, let us first examine the experience of this child, from his own point of view. Of course I continue to say,[I][B] contain him, keep the other children safely away, all children away. Get him treatment. Find out what happened to him, from a neutral and supportive, non-labeling place.[/B][/I] [B][I][/I][/B] I know you are dedicated to see that your child receives the help and support that he needs. I respect you and send my hope, and the little strength I have--to you.We, all of us, are here for you. [/QUOTE]
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